Oh No Please Don’t Go!
I’m assuming you have noticed that the entire look of Musings of the Lame has changed. No, we haven’t been bought out by corporate raiders. Rather, I took what could have been a sad situation and embraced it. I’m actually rather excited.
Since this blog started in 2005, I have used Maurice Sendak’s Where the Wild Things Are as my branding here. It was always a no brainer as Wild Things and Max were, and still are, the theme to my adoption experience. I adore Maurice Sendak, cried like a baby when he died, and the influence of Sendak upon my life will not dissipate. That being said, the Estate of Maurice Sendak didn’t agree.
Emotional Reactions to The Cease and Desist Letter on Monday
On October 7, 2013, I received the FedEx demands from the lawyers for the Estate. I did reply, begging, tears running down my face, not being able to even imagine what I could do instead of Max here. Joanie came over and brought me chocolate, Rye hugged me and listened to me fret. I spent my morning literally mourning the idea of the loss of the symbolism on my blog. It wasn’t just the work, it wasn’t just the branding, it was an adoption trigger and I felt, in some way, that I was losing my child again, Though it was not NEARLY as bad as the kitten incident. I knew this was clearly adoption related.
Alas, I did what I could. I replied to the attorneys. I hoped that I would be granted permission. I thank all who rallied round my desperate cry on Facebook and offered kind words, understanding, encouragement and even offered to chip in for purchasing the rights to the artwork. I know that MOTL is not just about me, but means something to many people. It showed.
There was discussion on guessing how they found out, but initially I really didn’t care how.. whether someone had turned me in or if the estate was just doing their job after he died. How would I ever know and what would it matter anyway? Either I could use the artwork or I could not. Why waste time on things that don’t matter in the grand scheme?
But then, I received word from Gaye that she witnessed the Save Veronica Rose people on Facebook actually discussing “telling on me” in regards to Wild Things copyright. And it did matter then. It mattered a whole lot.
No Satisfaction Here; I Won’t Back Down
I believe Gaye, so to me it is proof.
It is also proof that I hurt them. That we are threat to them. And that they are slimy chicken poops that revert to underhanded methods to enact revenge. I mean really? THAT’s how you react to actual truth? You tell on me? That’s really too funny! I am amused. I laughed. Sorry, I left 3rd grade a long time ago. The minute I read Gaye’s words, it felt like a switch was flipped inside me.
They wanted to hurt me. They wanted to get me upset. And I would, in no way, give them the pleasure of that. OK, they got me upset for about 3 hours. And then, they strengthen my resolve. May I? Yes, I believe I must; hey you stupid cretins – here’s a big FUCK YOU right back! Guess what? I can just redesign my whole damn website all by myself in a mere 48 hours!
If I must part with Max, an illustration, a symbol, for Veronica, an actual real, now adoptee, girl? Then it is worth it. It is so worth it to sacrifice a drawing for truth. I was HAPPY to do it now! And so, we move on to a bigger better Musings of the Lame. I take my messages from the Universe very seriously even if I dislike the messengers!
A New Chapter, More Than an Adoption Blog
I have been seriously thinking for some time now how MOTL has become more than just MY blog. It’s not just MY soapbox anymore, but it is OUR platform. Hence, I have been making small moves in that direction.
I want to keep going in that direction. For one, I can’t keep up on my own! AdoptionLand is a busy busy place!!! The other thing is that because I know SEO, Musings of the Lame does rank really, really well for many important adoption terms. That’s not just about me being heard, it’s about ALL of us being heard. It’s about us taking back what the adoption story is.
- I would love more guest post and adoption stories shared.
- I would love to see other contributors; like someone who covers adoption in the media.
- I am adding books, so we have have a review list and sources.
- I am working on a whole “Adoption Searching Guide“
- There are many more adoption research papers to be added.
- I would like more support groups listed and resources for moms considering.
Seriously, my project list is HUGE! So, in some way, the whole rebranding is setting a tone for a new chapter.
Good-Bye Wild Things, Hello Red Goats!
So, yes. Max was completely emotionally connected to me. It said this blog was MY story, my adoption experience. I am hoping the new brand will be more inclusive, not so personal, though it still is in many ways. While I was still freaking out about new branding, the phrases “bridges, rocks, foundation, building” all keep running though my head. I knew I wanted to keep the lame part, though more than it is what my name means, but because we are broken by adoption. I ran with it.
I know it is completely different , but I actually had a ton of fun with it and it still oozes with symbolism:
The Bridge: the new tagline is “Building a Bridge to Truth“; I have long thought of myself as a bridge and what I try to here is create a way to connect all of us. I maintain ties with folks from all over AdoptionLand and beyond. I bridge us here and the tools of marketing online. We connect to our pasts with searches, we connect to the feature through reunions. We build bridges to our lost family members. Get it?
I also have a thing for rocks, stones, etc. and am always going off about broken foundations.
The Scarlett A: pretty simple actually- A is for adoption. I have been saying for the past year that I was going to get a real Scarlett Letter tattooed on my chest; but I wasn’t sure which A yet. This is the A! For one, notice the three sections? Like a ying yang? While I KNOW we hate the idea of an “adoption triad” because it seems to say equality between all three and leaves out the big players, the adoption industry, I like the use here. Why? Because look at this A. It is violent. It is harsh. It is a brand- burned, stamped, torched upon us. And yes, I do mean all of us; adoptees, birthparents, and adoptive parents; the industry hurt us with this, used us all for what we had to offer – blood was shed. Why are we Lame? Because of Adoption, the monster, the machine, the industry.
Oh, and my daughter’s name is Scarlett. And YES, I am getting that tattoo!
Red, Jadite, Tiffiany Blues: So the red came with the A, as for the rest? I do vintage/ retro. It matches my kitchen and bedroom. I like it. It’s pretty. It’s crisp and clean. I am using more copyright friendly images overall for other things. I have taken the DENIED stamp from the Adoptee Rights movement and incorporated that and then, my other new love is “engravings”. They are old. They are fair use. They are fun, funky, retro and look good. Wait till you see the Unicorn I found!!
The Red Goats: The Red Goat is actually a Kingston, NY thing. It’s kind of silly, kind of bad, rebellious, defiant, but gets noticed. I decide to embrace my inner goat and pay homage to where I call home… the Red Goats and Musings of the Lame both were born on Wall Street. The Red Goats of Kingston have a Wiki page and a NY Times article about them, certain words just resonated with me:
“This is not a problem, this is an opportunity- Seize it! Occupy Wall Street. With goats.”
“The red goat is a great symbol — simple, striking, edgy, easy to remember and easier to associate with a sense of stubborn defiance”
Yeah. It’s kind of me in a nutshell.
Join me! Seize the Opportunity!!
So, I invite you to seize the day with me. Embrace the change. Max, Maurice and the Wild Things will always be dear to me and from your support, dear for you, too. I thank you and I will not ask you to stop.
Now, when you see a Wild Thing and think of me, think of Veronica Brown too. Think of injustice and the corruption in adoption! Think of ways to reach out, to be heard, to embrace your inner goat, to defy! Help build that bridge to adoption truths. Join the Adoption Army; Donate to keep me working here; Write a letter; Go to a protest!
Let’s go, we got lots of work to do!