What the Adoption Agencies & Professionals Don’t Want You to Know About Adoption in the USA
Most people view adoption as a wonderful altruistic act that is a win win for all parties involved. The birth parents cannot raise a child for whatever reason and other, more establish couples are waiting to have children or add to their families and they cannot. The general consensus is “Finding homes for all those unwanted children.” It sounds like a adoption is meeting the needs of society.
The problem is that adoption is a business, a big business. There is lots of money to be had by those who make their living from the transferring of parental rights from one party to another. If adoption was truly a societal need, then there wouldn’t be such profits to be had.
Money and Profit in US Adoptions
Adoption is over a 5 billion dollar a year industry by anyone’s best approximation. Just like actual adoption statistics, there is not one governing body that oversees adoption practices. Most of us have to base the numbers off of a study done in 1999 that had actual numbers and an estimated growth rate. The profits to be had by adoption professionals break out like this:
My Must Read about the Adoption Industry
I write a lot about the adoption industry because in my opinion, they are the root of the issue. They exploit the desires and needs of prospective adoptive parents and tell them what they want to hear because they need their money. They exploit the birth mothers and tell them what they want to hear because they need their babies. They do thing like create “non-profits’ to cover their trails and make people think they are not in it for the money and use crisis pregnancy centers to recruit women at risk.
These are a few posts that tell the story:
I wrote this back in 2007 when I had first broken my arm. Since then I have made a point of collecting the tax returns of all the parties. Nothing has changed.
This is a full copy of the 2000 publication from the Family Research Council that is aimed at understanding why more women do not relinquish their children for adoption and what can be done to change that. It recommends that counselors must be trained to give women sound reasons that will counter the desires to keep their babies. Such as reinforce the notion that it takes strong, mature woman to place a child for adoption. It teaches that pregnancy counselors must communicate that adoption can be an heroic, responsible choice and that the child benefits tremendously.
This is also a full digital copy of the 2007 publication from the Family Research Council and the National Council for Adoption. It’s really like a “How to Create an Kool-Aide Drinking Happy Birthmother” guide. It reads like an demonstration of the actual twisting of the mind of a women experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and the creation form that women, into a birthmother.
More Posts on the Truth of the Adoption Industry
Adoption Ark and Christian World Adoption have both announced they are closing their doors and filing for bankruptcy in the span of one last week. Even Chuck Johnson, CEO of the National Council for Adoption, said he expected that many more agencies would be closing. Burn, baby, burn!
We certainly have all felt the frustration of reading an adoption related article or story on the web or seeing it on the news or some talk show where the “expert” makes some statement completely contradictory to what we know about adoptees or about “birth” mothers. Where are the adoptees we cry? How come they didn’t ask a mother to tell her tale? How come they didn’t ask us, we wonder. And when will this controlled “commentary” about adoption falsehoods and misinformation end? When will they listen?
We have to acknowledge when they do and call attention when the leading adoption “experts” do not.
The simple truth is, if the adoption industry had done their job of informing adoptive families of the real risks of adopting an institutionalized, FAS Russian orphan, then the sensational news stories about returned children would never have angered the Russian government. If they had done their job and screened potential adoptive families better, then we might not have read about so many Russian adoptees abused or murdered by their “loving” adoptive parents. If they provided low cost post adoption services to meet the needs to the community they helped create, then underground “adoptee swapping networks” and places like the Ranch for Kids, would not be needed.
I figured I am usually so means against adoption agencies and never do anything nice for them. I am always doing things like the Craigslist Adoption Truth Project that makes it harder for them to find babies to place for adoption. So I figured that I would write a post that makes it easier for women to become birthmothers. See, look at me supporting adoption!
Hence, here’s a handy guide on how to become more vulnerable for adoption agencies and ways to ensure that you will place your baby.
Now, it’s considered OK for the potential birthmother to answer an ad, but she cannot place one, because then she is selling her baby. But, in reality she IS selling her child, she’s just not getting a good deal since she is going through the middle man. Yet, as a society we are outraged that a mother might consider getting something monetarily in exchange for her child.
Over and over we hear again, “I wouldn’t have done this if I knew it was so hard”. The intensity of grief is really glossed over. Maybe we can never truly begin to understand this until we live it, but “feelings of peace and contentment” do not come close. Maybe if adoption agency counseling warned of blind, toe numbing, soul clutching waves of grief and never ending tears that you eventually sort of get used to “living with” then we could talk. I have yet to see that on ANY agency website or in their literature. How about we just begin to include BOTH sides of the coin with their “Birthmother Testaments” so considering mothers get an idea of what COULD be the outcome.
So the supply comes from the birthmother producers, the demand comes from the potential adoption parents and then profit and loss comes to the adoption agency who must keep their expenses lower than their fees so they can stay in business. It doesn’t matter WHY you think adoption does or does not need to be here, this is the way it WORKS.
Who do YOU think is behind BraveLove.org? My spider senses are tingling. Of course I always mistrust these places that claim to “provide honest, informative and hopeful communication” and then have a clearly pro-adoption agenda. Plus this one is in Texas, home of the mighty Gladney Center for Adoption.
What the adoption industry counts on is that we won’t bother digging in and finding how they are all connected. It’s really easy to make a nonprofit host one website that links to another controlled website that links to another and make them all look independent. What they are doing is breaking up the whole message into little bits that then get fed to women over and over again, It looks like the message comes from all these different sources that have only her best interests at heart, but all roads lead to Bethany and Adoption and a lifetime of grief.
It is only after the true depth of the loss can be accepted that we see that we made a great error in judgment. There is value in the connection between mother and child that cannot be replaced by monetary things and perceived life successes. There is value in being with our own clans and the biological connections that make us who were are. There is great pain and loss in adoption for both the original family and the adoptee no matter how beneficial their placement is. The adoption industry is just that: an industry and it is often corrupt and money driven.
Rachel signed away her rights to her newborn son in the hospital parking lot under duress, the influence and questionable pretenses. Angels of Love Adoption Agency waited until Rachel was discharged and out of the protection of the hospital and blindsided her in the hospital parking lot was she was trying to take her newborn home.
The Association for Research on Mothering York University Karen Lynn 2001 Good afternoon. This speech is a message from the mothers of the Canadian Council of Birthmothers, mothers who have suffered the trauma of having lost a child or children to adoption and who are
Ruth Arlene Howe; Professor, Boston College Law School February 8, 2005 After enactment of the first “modern” state adoption statute in 1851,adoption in the United States evolved as both a state judicial process and a specialized child welfare service to promote the “best interests” of
While the original adoption tax credit was created to benefit the adoptions of special needs children, successful lobbying from adoptive parents and the adoption lobbyists have increased the credit by both the amount refunded and the range of adoptions covered.
The Adoption Tax Credit now covers expenses paid in an unsuccessful attempt to adopt an child before finalizing the adoption of another child can qualify for the credit. The Adoption Tax Credit now applies to domestic and international adoptions.
Loving Land of Gazillion Adoptees “Unofficial” Adoption Blog Week! I got Kevin’s secret message Secret message for other bloggers about the week of February 26th, aka, “Why the adoption establishment annoys the heck out of us” Blog Week. It really wasn’t that secret. I’m liking