Adoption Blogs & Adoption Bloggers

Adoption blogs and adoption bloggers; adoptees, birthmothers, adoptive parents

There are Many Many Adoption Blogs!

Adoption is not just one person’s story or one person’s truth. We all have voices and unique perspectives on the experiences.

When I started blogging, there was just a handful of us in the small adoption blogosphere, now, I am thrilled that there are so very many. Please feel free to let me know if I have missed any.

Email me with the links at fixadoption at gmail dot com and I will include them. Or get syndicated now. All I need is a feed. 

Reading Blogs from Adult Adoptees

The most important, in my opnion, are the blogs written by adoptees as  they know what we need to do to really fix adoption for the children it affects. Please listen to their words. Take off your blinders, open your heart and hear them.  It’s not all about rainbows and butterflys and making YOU feel good.. it’s adoption. It’s suppose to be about the children. Listen to them..they have voices now.

Adoptee Blogs

More Birthmothers Blogging

I think so many of us spent all too many years in isolation with our loss and pain. The industry that took away our children told us to move on and created a set of rules that most of us fail at. We never got over losing our babies and adoption, this one time event that was suppose to fix everything, still continues to affect all of us each and every day. Don’t say we are the minority, just listen to what we have to say.

 If you want the list of More Birthmother Blogs click here.

There are also other birthmother blogs syndicated here on Musings of the Lame:

Blogs from Adoptive Parents

The great majority of adoption blogs are still written by adoptive parents. many start blogging to share their stories of finding their children and becoming the “forever family”. I don’t even try to include them on my list here. Truthfully, I don’t want to. The adoptive parents blogs that I include here are, in my opinion  some of the best. These are the role models for adoptive parents; the ones that really understand adoption and accept the imperfect losses involved.

Blogs from Adoptive Parents

I will also syndicate  blogs from Adoptive Parents if they are acceptable to the overall message on MOTL.

Other Adoption Related Blogs

Adoption does not just affect the baby adopted, the adoptive parents and the birthfamily. Adoption issues affect the spouses of adoptees and their children. The siblings in birthfamilies who lost their brothers and sisters too. There are birthfathers and birth sisters and grandparents and uncles. Every voice is just as important.

And then, we have the children created through surrogacy and sperm and egg doners who are now grown up and have also found their voices. You’ll never be able to prove to me that thier stories are not related to adoption as they face so many of the same issues and feelings as adoptees.

Even More Blogs on Adoption Issues

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Denying Adoption vs Dwelling on It: When to Tell

By Lori Holden Question: We already have an open adoption. My son is 4 years old and I keep wondering: when is a good time to tell him that he was adopted? I still think its too early right now, but when do other parents start to open up about this? I just don’t want to make it … Continue reading Denying Adoption vs Dwelling on It: When to Tell →
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Chasing Myself

By AstridBeeMom Sometimes it feels as if adoption swallows EVERY. SINGLE. PART. OF. MY. LIFE. While I love what I do, the people I help, the people I educate, the people who help me, the people who educate me, sometimes I find myself shutting down in the adoption world as it all becomes extremely overwhelming at times. Since this is a personal journey, for me, like so many others, it is often hard to separate all the pain that I feel with what I’m trying to do. I still find that I am at a place where I am forever playing tug of war with acceptance and denial. Intellectually I know that I carried my daughter for nine months, gave birth to her after almost a full day of labor, nurtured her in her first days, and got to know her in her first weeks….and then said goodbye. While I was lucky to have been able to see her on two separate occasions during the first 2 years of her life, I had wanted so much more. The expectations that I had in my heart for how this whole journey read more…

Update on the Guatemala Kidnapping and American Adoption of Karen Abigail Monahan

By Mirah Riben In December 2014 I reported on the Guatemala kidnapping of Anyeli Liseth Hernández and her US adoption by Timothy and Jennifer Monahan of Liberty Missouri who named the child Karen Abigail. Susana Luarca, aka Susana María de la Asunción Luarca Saracho who was charged with criminal association, human trafficking, and the use of forged documents in 2013, was recently sentenced to 18 years in a Guatemalan prison for arranging the illegal adoption of Anyeli.
In addition, the judges ordered the immediate activation of an international alert Alba-Keneth alert – similar to our Amber Alerts – of Anyeli Hernández Rodríguez and all the names that are known to the child.
Loyda Elizabeth Rodriguez, Anyeli’a Guatemalan mother said they will fight to have their daughter back and he will not rest until she does. Norma Cruz, head of the Fundación Sobrevivientes (Survivors’ Foundation), has also pledged to continue the processes needed for the recovery of the child, who lives with her adoptive family in the United States.
The kidnapped child remains with the Monahans, the American family who adopted her.

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Bait and Switch Foils NYS Adoptee Rights

By Mirah Riben “In this day and age, there is no reason why there should be restrictions on an adoptee having access to their original birth certificate.”
David Weprin, New York State Assemblymember
representing Queens 24th Assembly District.
A New York bill allowing adults who were adopted as children to obtain access to their original birth certificates, was “destroyed” by members of the NY State Assembly before it passed by a 125-19 vote on June 18, according to members of the group New York Adoption Equality.
For initial supporters of the bill, S5964 is no longer an adoptee rights bill. There is no urgency to push this legislation through without it receiving committee review and input, yet, the bill was pushed through at the last minute, Sunday night at midnight. Neither S5964 nor its companion, A2901a, was reviewed by any committee in either house.
C. Catherine Swett, co-founder and downstate coordinator of NY Adoption Equality, believes no one should be denied access to a legal document on the basis of his or her status as an adopted person, as is the case with current laws. The original bill supported read more…

Totes Adorbs

By Lori Holden Take a little bit of poodle and add in some bichon. Mix together and you end up with my sweet, sweet, funny, sweet, thoroughly adorable Dexter. (Alert: when you hit play you’ll hear music.) Six Months of Dexter in 15 Seconds More gratuitous Dexter pics are just a click away. ~~~ This post is part … Continue reading Totes Adorbs →
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How to Explain to Children Differing Levels of Openness in Adoption

By Lori Holden Dear Lavvie: How do we explain different levels of openness to our children? We have a very close relationship with our son’s birth mother and his biological brother and grandparents but because of our daughter’s birth mother’s lifestyle our relationship with her and her other children is limited. Our children are only 2 and … Continue reading How to Explain to Children Differing Levels of Openness in Adoption →
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American Adoption Congress Speech ~ May 4, 1979

By Susie I’ve seen this before. From a speech given at the first American Adoption Congress in Washington, DC. It’s not that I agree with every word that makes it hit home especially hard. It’s the date that this speech was given.May 4, 1979Just four days before Christopher was born. Just four days.Four Days I had no idea…I was not indifferent.My son was NOT unwanted. I did not wish to remain forever hidden from him.Sadly, 36 years later and this still rings true… ”It is the child welfare establishment that has provided the picture of birth mothers as indifferent – as mothers who abandon their unwanted children with a wish to remain forever hidden from them. They know that this is seldom true, but it helps to facilitate their work for the public to believe this. Society does not dismiss the importance of the natural family as readily as the social planners, and so it is useful to portray relinquishing parents as different from caring parents.””The birth mother must be different, an aberration; for if it were true that she had the same degree of love for her child as all other mothers, the read more…

A World Changing Revolution? The Entrepreneur’s Manifesto

By Mirah Riben More than three billion people — nearly half the world’s population — live in poverty; more than 1.3 billion live in extreme poverty.
As Americans living on minimum wage are seeking a living wage, Steve Mariotti advocates revolution: a universal, democratic revolution that will benefit everyone.
In his latest book, An Entrepreneur’s Manifesto, the author posits that to sell a product or service to another is a revolutionary act, “an act that has the power to transform lives, rebuild families, and forever change communities.”The entrepreneurship revolution is a revolution of consciousness; it is an awakening of the natural inventiveness, creativity, and desire for freedom deeply rooted in the psyche of every human being.
Mariotti is an MBA who worked as a treasury analyst for Ford Motor Company and ran seven businesses by the age of 21. He has said that learning to embrace his dyslexia led to his success. “I can process information in a very unique way, which helps me see a a market, understand it, and teach young people about it.”
Mariotti’s life changed in 1981, when he was mugged by three teenage boys. He couldn’t read more…

Being Blackish: Race and Self-Identification

By Mirah Riben Rachel Dolezal, former president of the NAACP of Spokane, Washington, was “outed” for being White and apparently lying. That aside, the question remains: can a person feel like or identify as another race in a way similar to taking on a new gender identity? Our Census Bureau seems to think that’s sufficient. The U.S. Census Bureau website states: “The Census Bureau collects racial data in accordance with guidelines provided by the U.S. Office of Management and Budget (OMB), and these data are based on self-identification.
“The racial categories included in the census questionnaire generally reflect a social definition of race recognized in this country and not an attempt to define race biologically, anthropologically, or genetically.”Black and White Thinking in a Multicolor World
The idea of race being ambiguous and fluid rather than assigned and immutable is not new. Rachel Dolezal did not invent the concept. In December 2008 USA Today reported on racial ambiguities on the heels of President Barack Obama – who has a Black father and a White mother – taking office.
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One of My Shortest Posts Ever

By Lori Holden I’m curating an online magazine called Open Adoption Matters, free to read on any of your devices. I hope you’ll subscribe. View my Flipboard Magazine. Also, my book is now out in paperback. $10 less than before. (My actual shortest post is here.) ~~~ This post is part of #MicroblogMondays? Whazzat? A post that’s not … Continue reading One of My Shortest Posts Ever →
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For the Fathers

By AstridBeeMom For the fathers who were never made aware they had a child, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who fought like hell to keep their children but the adoption industry won out, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who felt they had no other choice, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who were tricked, coerced, or lied to, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who were accused of horrible things so that the industry could obtain your child, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who are still fighting a David & Goliath battle, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who are about to embark down the path of hell but don’t know it yet, this one’s for you.
To the overlooked, under-represented, swept under the rug fathers out there, I see you. I hear you. Happy Father’s Day. This one’s for you.Filed under: adoptee, Adoption – Generalized, adoption coercion, Birthfather, fathers, Fathers Rights

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5 Mental Health Takeaways from Disney Pixar’s Inside Out

By Lori Holden As far back as I can remember I’ve been fascinated with how the mind works. In high school I wrote an essay on the subconscious and later I earned a degree in psychology in college. More recently, I started practicing yoga and meditation, as ways to bring the subconscious up to the conscious level on … Continue reading 5 Mental Health Takeaways from Disney Pixar’s Inside Out →
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I Tried to Communicate. She Got Hurt. Things Closed Down.

By Lori Holden Last week’s Dear Lavvie question was from an adoptive mom wanting to open herself up for her daughter’s sake in spite of past hurts. This week we have a birth family member who wonders how to pry open a relationship with the adoptive family in light of a perceived hurt. Dear Lavvie: I am an … Continue reading I Tried to Communicate. She Got Hurt. Things Closed Down. →
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10 Things I Hate About Being a Birth Mother

By AstridBeeMom AstridBeeMom:So much this.
Originally posted on Out of the First Mom Closet:
1. I hate that I can not talk about it with most people.

The few friends I have spoken about it with have given me the pity “cancer” face. Holy Christ how I hate that fucking pity face. I get it, most people don’t know what to say and so they default to “the face”. So what would be better than “the face”? It is so hard for me to talk about my experience and so if I brought it up, please ask me questions. It does not hurt less not to talk about it.

2. I hate that most people think we are drug addicts, abusers, neglectful, uneducated, and ignorant.

In my experience, most people assume one if not all of these things about us. Yeah it’s true in some cases, but not in most I would wager. These stereotypes make it even harder to talk about the pain…
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Voices From AdoptionLand

By Mirah Riben “I feel like a stolen heart from a corpse, trapped in a foreign body.” Sunny Jo”This is not something that gets better over time. Because as you get older, as you live, you learn more and more about what’s been taken away from you. And you learn more and more about the enormity of what’s been stolen.” Cameron Horn”I feel like a ghost, invisible to the culture and society that brought me here, but also invisible to the community and culture of my birth. My heritage and the cultural umbilical cord having been severed at birth by transracial adoption – an act perceived to be responsible for saving my life.” Lucy Sheen
Compiled by Janine and Jenette Vance, AdoptionLand: From Orphans to Activists, is an indispensable contribution to adoption literature. The essays, poems and letters in this compilation reflect the thoughts, the feelings, the souls of those who inhabit AdoptionLand — a place of truth and acceptance for the casualties of the demand for children.
The anthology brings together twenty-eight men and women. Many are internationally and/or inter-racially adopted. Asian babies scattered around the globe like seeds read more…