Adoption Blogs & Adoption Bloggers

Adoption blogs and adoption bloggers; adoptees, birthmothers, adoptive parents

There are Many Many Adoption Blogs!

Adoption is not just one person’s story or one person’s truth. We all have voices and unique perspectives on the experiences.

When I started blogging, there was just a handful of us in the small adoption blogosphere, now, I am thrilled that there are so very many. Please feel free to let me know if I have missed any.

Email me with the links at fixadoption at gmail dot com and I will include them. Or get syndicated now. All I need is a feed. 

Reading Blogs from Adult Adoptees

The most important, in my opnion, are the blogs written by adoptees as  they know what we need to do to really fix adoption for the children it affects. Please listen to their words. Take off your blinders, open your heart and hear them.  It’s not all about rainbows and butterflys and making YOU feel good.. it’s adoption. It’s suppose to be about the children. Listen to them..they have voices now.

Adoptee Blogs

More Birthmothers Blogging

I think so many of us spent all too many years in isolation with our loss and pain. The industry that took away our children told us to move on and created a set of rules that most of us fail at. We never got over losing our babies and adoption, this one time event that was suppose to fix everything, still continues to affect all of us each and every day. Don’t say we are the minority, just listen to what we have to say.

 If you want the list of More Birthmother Blogs click here.

There are also other birthmother blogs syndicated here on Musings of the Lame:

Blogs from Adoptive Parents

The great majority of adoption blogs are still written by adoptive parents. many start blogging to share their stories of finding their children and becoming the “forever family”. I don’t even try to include them on my list here. Truthfully, I don’t want to. The adoptive parents blogs that I include here are, in my opinion  some of the best. These are the role models for adoptive parents; the ones that really understand adoption and accept the imperfect losses involved.

Blogs from Adoptive Parents

I will also syndicate  blogs from Adoptive Parents if they are acceptable to the overall message on MOTL.

Other Adoption Related Blogs

Adoption does not just affect the baby adopted, the adoptive parents and the birthfamily. Adoption issues affect the spouses of adoptees and their children. The siblings in birthfamilies who lost their brothers and sisters too. There are birthfathers and birth sisters and grandparents and uncles. Every voice is just as important.

And then, we have the children created through surrogacy and sperm and egg doners who are now grown up and have also found their voices. You’ll never be able to prove to me that thier stories are not related to adoption as they face so many of the same issues and feelings as adoptees.

Even More Blogs on Adoption Issues

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#NotInTheBrochure: How We Must Make Adoption World Better

By Lori Holden Nobody Told Us Have you heard this from a birth parent? No one told me it would hurt this much for this long. They told me about open adoption, but no one told me how hard it would be to navigate these relationships and feelings. Or this from an adoptive parent? Wasn’t it supposed to … Continue reading #NotInTheBrochure: How We Must Make Adoption World Better →
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You Are Invited: 2016 Saving Our Sisters Summit

By AstridBeeMom
We have been frantically excitedly planning the Saving Our Sisters Summit since the beginning of the year and are ready for you all to register!
Consider this your official invitation!
SOS SUMMIT May 12th – 15th, 2016
Hilton Airport Kansas City
Review the registration form and tentative agenda at:
What is the Summit?
A gathering of “family preservation first” supporters to come together to connect face to face to learn, grow and understand how we are going to continue to support mothers and fathers to successfully be the parents that they want to be and to make a bigger and better impact in the movement to reform adoption and eliminate coercive persuasion used by many unethical adoption “professionals.”
What if I can’t afford the registration fee?
Well, we have a couple of options for you!
First, Clean & Care Laundry Detergent has offered a way for your to pay for your entire registration fee!
This is all explained on the registration form as well on the 2nd page.
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Where is the Oversharing Line in Our Adoption Stories?

By Lori Holden Question: I just read your article and am an adoptive mom to a beautiful 10 month old boy named Quinton. We have a good relationship with the birth parents and have stayed connected though we reside across the country from them. We tell almost everyone that Quinton is adopted, often because people exclaim how much … Continue reading Where is the Oversharing Line in Our Adoption Stories? →
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Consequences of Openness in Adoption

By Lori Holden The Winter/Spring issue of Pathway 2 Family is out. The magazine’s target market isn’t people considering traditional adoption, but those considering embryo adoption*. The issue contains an article I wrote about the consequences of openness in adoption. Here’s an excerpt and a link to the issue (read for free). *** Consequences – the word sounds … Continue reading Consequences of Openness in Adoption →
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Can You Get to Ohio in March?

By Lori Holden If you’re interested in adoption issues and able to be in the Cleveland area the weekend of March 18-20, you’ll want to know about the Annual Adoption Gathering hosted by Adoption Network Cleveland. Coinciding with the first anniversary of this, ANC offers this: From Adoption Network Cleveland’s Open Invitation: The Ohio adoption community has experienced … Continue reading Can You Get to Ohio in March? →
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Letter to Indiana Legislators in Support of SB91

By Laura Marie Scoggins

I am writing to encourage your support of Senate Bill 91 which will allow ALL Hoosier Adoptees equal access to their original birth certificates. Pre 1994 adoptees deserve the same access as post 1994 adoptees.
One of the most common questions adoptees are asked when they tell people they are searching for their biological family or have been reunited is “why would you even want to search?”
Imagine what it’s like your entire life every single time you go to the doctor and are asked to fill out a medical history form you can’t. All you can do is write ADOPTED in large letters across the page which is code for being totally and completely clueless about your medical history Then, despite writing adopted across the page you are still badgered with questions once you reach the examination room (first by the nurse then by the doctor). Every single time you visit a physician, dentist, eye doctor, or have any type of medical procedure performed you are reminded that you are read more…

How to Best Increase Life Saving Organ Donations

By Mirah Riben An organ transplant is often a patient’s last hope for life, and it is well known that there are an insufficient number of organs being donated from living or deceased donors. The wealthy always have the option of avoiding long waiting lists by finding quasi legal organs for sale within and outside the US. For the rest of us, it could take years to get an organ transplant. There is an urgent need and we must investigate how to best increase the donor pool.
According to the US Department of Health & Human Services, and UNOS (United Network for Organ Sharing), a nonprofit organization in Richmond Va. that administers the country’s only Organ Procurement and Transplantation Network, approximately 28,000 organs are transplanted each year in America; 79 a day. Hearts, kidneys, liver, lungs, pancreas, intestine, and thymus all can be transplanted. (Additionally, tissue transplantation includes bones, tendons, cornea, skin, heart valves, nerves and veins.)
Approximately 18 people die every day – more than 6,000 a year – due to a shortage of donated organs, and the lack of organs for transplant will continue to rise as the population ages. While people die in read more…

Whose Story Is It?

By Lori Holden Question: I am adoptive mom of two adorable kids and I attend a monthly support group for mothers like me in my country. We have been discussing the importance of telling the child they are adopted. Not everyone thinks it needs to be told, since in our culture (which is fairly homogeneous) you can’t always … Continue reading Whose Story Is It? →
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Adam Pertman on Supporting Adoptive Families

By Lori Holden You might think that once adoption papers are signed and the child has a forever family, that’s the end of the story. Guest poster Adam Pertman stresses that while finalization is the end of one journey, it’s also the beginning of another. Permanency for Children & Support For their Families Finding safe, permanent homes for … Continue reading Adam Pertman on Supporting Adoptive Families →
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Perfect Start

By Lori Holden My friend and I met on New Year’s Day at the beautiful Dushanbe Tea House in a nearby suburb. It’s the second time in a row we’ve met there on this day, making it our brand new New Year’s tradition. The food is delicious and just a bit exotic. The architecture and aesthetics are gorgeous. … Continue reading Perfect Start →
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The Adoption Rollercoaster: Reunion?

By AstridBeeMom As my relinquished daughter gets older it’s become more difficult to keep up with personal updates in regards to my adoption story. The older she gets, the more I realize that it isn’t just my story to tell and I have become conflicted about just what to share and what to keep private.
I see so many birthmom blogs of mothers early into the adoption journey blogging all the details of their great open adoption story. I see the same thing with adoptive parents as well. I’m guilty of putting things out there without thinking as well. I’d just like to remind everyone to be cautious when publicly sharing your story. The way you see things may not (probably isn’t) exactly how your child does.
Even so, I would like to share some things that have transpired. I’ll keep things simple out of respect for IKL’s privacy. I won’t imply that I know how she feels. This is just my side of the story and I’ll stick with facts and how I feel.
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A Reflection For New Years

By AstridBeeMom This New Year’s Eve I have taken some time to contemplate where I’ve been, where I am, and where I’m going. A new year is upon us, and that usually comes with resolutions we make with all the best intentions, but somehow fail to follow through with. I don’t even bother anymore. This year, so many things have transpired in my life that I can’t help but look back on not just 2015, but all of my previous years and the trials and triumphs that came with them.
Almost 11 years ago, during a very trying time in my life (both financially and emotionally) I left everything I knew and that was familiar, with my kids, and moved to a different state. I had no job, no home, and relied on the kindness of family to help me on my feet. It was one of the scariest experiences as an adult that I can remember. No real stability and structure, I was left wondering if we’d ever be okay. All I knew is that we were on a sinking ship and this move was the only life raft I had. There was no read more…

The Year of the Luz 2015

By Lori Holden Highlights and lowlights of 2015. Quarter 1: Family Fight Night It was a rough start to the year. My inner badass was activated at my son’s basketball game and I almost got into a brawl. That was on the heels of our 3 Wheelchair Night. Quarter 2: Paperback (and Letter) Writer My book came out … Continue reading The Year of the Luz 2015 →
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3rd Annual SOS Sponsor a Saved Family for the Holidays Thank You!

By AstridBeeMom
Wow! I cannot even begin to express the gratitude that I feel for those who were able to help with the 3rd Annual SOS Sponsor a Saved Family for the Holidays this year. It truly was amazing what you all have done.
This Christmas there were 12 families that we sponsored and 28 kids in total. These are families who trusted SOS when we stepped in and said, “You are what’s best for your baby, regardless of your temporary situation. You are deserving of your baby and your baby deserves you.” Our entire network makes a commitment to these moms when they decide to let us help and it continues to amaze me what this network is able to do. The show of love, support, monetary donations, and giving is nothing short of awesome. You all rock!
Because of you, 28 children were able to snuggle up in some new jammies on Christmas Eve, with a bucket of popcorn and snacks, and watch a movie after making their gingerbread read more…

Infertility: The Important Missing Piece in Health Education Classes

By Mirah Riben Why would adolescents need to be concerned with infertility, one might wonder? The answer is that, since fertility is precarious, decreases with age, and is negatively impacted by common adolescent behaviors, it is important to be cognizant of these risk factors to avoid than anguish of infertility.
“Abstinence Only” sexuality education curriculum is mandated in order for American public schools to obtain federal funding. Opting out of this curriculum, one that lacks a great deal of information youngsters need to make healthy choices, is very costly. Yet, even more progressive and comprehensive sexuality school curricula focus on pregnancy and disease avoidance, making infertility seem an odd topic to include.
Infertility affects both men and women, is devastating, heartbreaking, and often extremely expensive, and many of the risk factors are rooted in behavior that begins in adolescence. Teaching reproductive health without mentioning infertility does teens and young adults a disservice. What is Infertility?Resolve, the National Infertility Association that provides support and advocacy, defines infertility as the inability to conceive after one year of read more…