Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

Family Preservation

By Mirah Riben If your neighbor lost his job a year after his wife died, and he had three small kids, would you “help” him by taking away his kids? If a family in your church or congregation’s house burnt down and they had no family to stay with, would you help them by adopting their infant child? Recently, Ronnie Stewart a Florida minister of the Refuge Church of New…

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#flipthescript 11: Abuse to Adoption to Addiction to Affirmation

By Lori Holden Only recently did Michael Schwerman realize that being adopted at age 12 by a step father was not nothing — as he’d always thought — nor was the difficult relationship he’s had with his mother. He’s figuring out that instead, the circumstances around his adoption and rejection shaped his life and affected his future. Adopted … Continue reading #flipthescript 11: Abuse to Adoption to Addiction to Affirmation…


(Birth) Moms ~ Search for Your (adult) Child!

By Susie from: Wild Women Sisterhood FULL MOON PRAYER by Rumi What in your life is Calling you, When all the noise is silenced, The meetings adjourned.. The lists laid aside, And the Wild Iris blooms By itself In the dark forest… What still pulls on your Soul? Are you a mother who lost a child to adoption? Does your (now adult) child call out to your soul? Are you…


I Got Jackassed. TWICE.

By Lori Holden The parking lot was not full when I drove up. I slid into one of many available spots, grabbed my mat and headed in to a yoga class. I got some exercise, met my physical and mental edge, practiced staying present, and closed with a moment of stillness.That last step was important.Because when I came … Continue reading I Got Jackassed. TWICE. → The post I Got…


#flipthescript 10: I Guessed My Birth Mother’s First Name

By Lori Holden Lenore Paletta found out she was born Giuseppina Morellato in Italy. With aching candor, she shares a portion of her search for her identity.The #flipthescript series gives adoptees the microphone during November, National Adoption Awareness Month.Image: Tracy HammondWhen I Think of SearchingI guessed my birth mother’s first name. Yes, I really did. I was sitting … Continue reading #flipthescript 10: I Guessed My Birth Mother’s First Name…


#flipthescript 9: The Healing Power of Open Adoption

By Lori Holden Paula Fahey was born, relinquished, and adopted during the closed adoption era. She experienced the happy/sad of adoption — she loved her parents yet she wondered about her birth parents. She’s now also on the birth family side of an open adoption and weighs in on the element of openness.The #flipthescript series gives adoptees the … Continue reading #flipthescript 9: The Healing Power of Open Adoption →…


Stillness in Contentiousness

By Lori Holden I’m craving stillness as we in the United States near the end of this particularly contentious election season. Stillness takes us from the frenetic edge of the spinning sphere to the still center, to our core.Stillness is how we bring unity from duality. And I don’t know about you, but boy, have I been feeling duality, … Continue reading Stillness in Contentiousness → The post Stillness in…


#flipthescript 8: Adoptees Are In Reunion Whether They’re Searching or Not

By Lori Holden Lesli Johnson, author of the helpful and repeatedly viral post, 10 Things Adoptess WantYou to Know, is flipping the script today. Adopted people are taking over the microphone in this space during November for National Adoption Awareness Month.Image: Tracy HammondWhat Adoptees DoDuring a recent presentation at an adoption conference, I had attendees participate in a … Continue reading #flipthescript 8: Adoptees Are In Reunion Whether They’re Searching…


#flipthescript 7: Hold On

By Lori Holden Anne Heffron, author of the newly-released must-read memoir You Don’t Look Adopted, kicks of this year’s #flipthescript series, in which adoptees take over the microphone.Image: Tracy HammondSo Why Was I Crying?I am going to visit some of my birth father’s family for the first time next week and my family is letting me go. No … Continue reading #flipthescript 7: Hold On → The post #flipthescript 7:…