Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

Family Preservation

By Mirah Riben If your neighbor lost his job a year after his wife died, and he had three small kids, would you “help” him by taking away his kids? If a family in your church or congregation’s house burnt down and they had no family to stay with, would you help them by adopting their infant child? Recently, Ronnie Stewart a Florida minister of the Refuge Church of New…

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7 Questions Adopted Children May Ask

By Lori Holden The summer edition of Pathway 2 Family is out. Articles include “What is Infertility?” and “Open Embryo Adoption: Radical or Common Sense?” Click the cover to read for free.My colleague Dawn Davenport of Creating A Family has an article that discusses research on the emotional health on donor-conceived children.And I wrote one that addresses the … Continue reading 7 Questions Adopted Children May Ask → The post…


Legally Enforceable Open Adoption Contracts in the United States

By AstridBeeMom *Disclaimer: I am not an attorney and nothing in this article should be substituted for legal advice. I highly suggest any expectant mother who is considering adoption to retain her own legal representation who understands adoption law in the state that the adoption will be finalized as well as the state she lives in. This is my interpretation of the laws and my opinion based on my own…


Assholes in Adoptionland

By AstridBeeMom This is going to sound like a “poor me” post. It’s not and it is. It’s more like a plea for everyone to stop acting like assholes. Many that read this blog are active within the adoption community. Forums, Facebook groups, Twitter, online support groups, face to face groups – just to name a few. Some of these groups are mixed with adoptees, adoptive parents, hoping to adopt…


Adoption Propaganda & Lies

By AstridBeeMom The following is an interview I did for Southern Belle Humanism (formerly Southern Belle Atheism). Sit tight folks! Blasting a new case wide open next week! Read at the Source: : Musings of a Birthmom       


So Many Emotions About My Son’s Adoption Reunion

By Lori Holden Question: I came across your post “He Wants to Live with His Birth Mother. Now what?” — because I’m living it.I am an adoptive mother of three. My son, now 23 , graduated from college this past May. Throughout his upbringing his father and I would talk about adoption from time to time and always … Continue reading So Many Emotions About My Son’s Adoption Reunion →…


Broken but Beautiful

By Lori Holden Dexter and I walk. We amble the same neighborhood most days. He never fails to find new and interesting things to smell. I never fail to find new and interesting things to see.~~~~~This post is part of #MicroblogMondays? Whazzat? A post that’s not too long. Head to Stirrup Queens to join the fun. The post Broken but Beautiful appeared first on Lavender Luz. Read at the Source:…


From Infertility to Openness: The Evolution of Jessica

By Lori Holden Jess simultaneously straddles two sides of The Adoption Wait — waiting to get picked as adoptive parents and waiting to be matched as embryo donors (there’s a new development on that on her blog).In this guest post about her ridiculously crazy journey through infertility, third party reproduction, and adoption, Jess tells how her beliefs evolved … Continue reading From Infertility to Openness: The Evolution of Jessica →…


Parenting Teens amid Rape Culture

By Lori Holden Back before Orlando and Istanbul, when we were still talking about Stanford rapist Brock Turner and the rape culture that he, his parents and the judge arose from and perpetuate, I remember reading lots of opinions about the fact that alcohol had been involved. The gist was something like this: just because the survivor was … Continue reading Parenting Teens amid Rape Culture → The post Parenting…