Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

Family Preservation

By Mirah Riben If your neighbor lost his job a year after his wife died, and he had three small kids, would you “help” him by taking away his kids? If a family in your church or congregation’s house burnt down and they had no family to stay with, would you help them by adopting their infant child? Recently, Ronnie Stewart a Florida minister of the Refuge Church of New…

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Aly’s Unethical Fight

“We are so blessed by our two girls, but we are supposed to be coming home with three. …. We felt God tell us to adopt this baby. Even though we have two, we cannot not fight for one we clearly felt was ours. …. Our blessings are many, but that does not mean we will stop fighting for the one…the one we felt God told us was ours when we said yes to adopt again in January.”

Aly, you heard God wrong.


Dear Aly’s “Birthmom”

By AstridBeeMom Dear Aly’s “Birthmom,” This is how you are referred to in Aly and Josh Taylor’s blog, but you are not “their” birthmom. You don’t belong to them. You are Genevieve’s first mother. You are also the mother to the little girl you just gave birth to. Please don’t let anyone tell you any different. I have been scouring the Internet all day trying to figure out who you…


Sister Silliness

By Lori Holden My sisters and I started the morning chatting about some family news. We checked in about how back-to-school has been for our college, high school, middle school, elementary and pre-preschool kiddos. We joked about all the free time we should thus be having but don’t.I can’t tell you exactly how we meandered there, but the … Continue reading Sister Silliness → The post Sister Silliness appeared first…



My Son’s Birth Mom Sounds Passive Aggressive. Help?

By Lori Holden Question: On social media, I posted a cute photo of my cute son doing a cute thing. My son’s mom commented:It sucks to only see pix of him here. I wish you’d send me some. Oh, well, at least I get something.I’m not really sure what to say? We’ve never had an agreement where I … Continue reading My Son’s Birth Mom Sounds Passive Aggressive. Help? →…


Adoptive Families Still Face Bumpy Roads in the Classroom

By Lori Holden As children around the country head back to school, Adam Pertman shares an update to a post he initially published a few years ago. His original article on adoption in schools referenced a 2006 policy paper published by the Donaldson Adoption Institute. He laments that he didn’t have to make many changes because not much … Continue reading Adoptive Families Still Face Bumpy Roads in the Classroom…


When It’s Time to Change You’ve Got to Rearrange

By Lori Holden I’ve saved voice messages from my son over the last several years. I wasn’t conscious why I’ve done so — space on my phone is limited so why keep mundane messages like “can I have a sleepover” when they are a dime a dozen?I also saved a few voice messages from my daughter, but the … Continue reading When It’s Time to Change You’ve Got to Rearrange…


My Adoption Memoir – Whispers of Grace

By AstridBeeMom A little over a year ago I began to write the first book in a series of memoirs that I intended to release. I entitled this series, “Whispers of Grace.” The first draft was pretty horrible. I wanted to gain honest feedback and constructive criticism so I released the draft for a few short days and listened to everyone’s thoughts. Since then I have been working to polish…