More Blogs from Other Birthmothers Like Me


More Voices and Stories from Birthmothers

However outdated, and even, I know, with some of these voices, these beacons of truth, completed or on hold or just sitting silent for a spell; this list of blogs from mothers, whatever you wish to call us: Birthmothers, firstmothers, biomoms, or CWBMs …is worth a good read.

Understand the Truth about Adoption Relinquishment?

We’ll tell you our truth as we lived as we continue to live separated from our children.

Just read our birthmother blogs.

The Blogger feed below is from a collection of Birthmother blogs written from throughout the adoption community. I keep them on Friendfeed and then create the widget used below. All are welcome to use the code and add to your own blog or website. This way you get the most recent blog post form birthmothers all in one place.

Feel free to email me for the codes at fixadoption at

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More Birthmother Blogs

Below is a list of Birthmother Blogs. Some might not have been updated for sometime, but that doesn’t mean that they stories are any less valid. If you would like to add your Birthmother Blog to the list, please email me or add your URL in the comment below.

Please let me know if you would like to be added to the list. An email is good, but a comment here is better!

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About the Author

Musings of the Lame was started in 2005 primarily as a simple blog recording the feelings of a birthmother as she struggled to understand how the act of relinquishing her first newborn so to adoption in 1987 continued to be a major force in her life. Built from the knowledge gained in the adoption community, it records the search for her son and the adoption reunion as it happened. Since then, it has grown as an adoption forum encompassing the complexity of the adoption industry, the fight to free her sons adoption records and the need for Adoptee Rights, and a growing community of other birthmothers, adoptive parents and adopted persons who are able to see that so much what we want to believe about adoption is wrong.

13 Comments on "More Blogs from Other Birthmothers Like Me"

  1. this was a great resource to be able to read and relate to others who have been through the relinquishment of their first born baby. i would love to be included in this list to help others. being a first mother myself it is so helpful when you read others explain feelings that only first mothers experience.

  2. I am a birthmother who gave birth in 1986 to a daughter, the birthdad wanted nothing to do with me and my parents were ashamed and forced me to give up my child. It was a private adoption. I was found in 2004 and my daughter was raised and still lived in the same zip code as i. I had no idea. After we met she was like part of the family and it was great for the first 3 years and then she became pregnant and has avoided me for 3 years now. I feel she is punishing me and not letting me know her daughter my only granddaughter. I found out earlier this year I am unable to have children. Which makes this even more difficult. However, she is in contact with the birthdad which drives me crazy. I am almost at the point of no return with a relationship with her. I have finally accepted who I am and that is just a person who gave birth and life to a child that wants nothing to do with me. I will never know what it is like to be a mother or grandmother. Her adoptive parents were not supportive at all and gave her guilt throughout the whole reunion. All I can do is move on with my life and hope I am not so bitter if she returns that I dont turn her away.

  3. Thanks for the list, there are many there I haven’t seen yet. Could you add mine to the list too?

  4. Claud your resource-ability…if that is a word…amazes me…keep it going lady.

  5. This is a really great site, and I hope you are able to achieve many of your goals.. if not all of them. I relinquished my son to adoption in 1974. We reunited briefly but he has been in pullback for some time now. I understand anonymous’s post above. Somehow some of us picture reunion as something of a hallmark card movie and when pullback happens it is devastating. I suspect much of the unresolved grief of the original surrender hits us full force when we have a child leave our lives for a second or third time.

    I’m thirty six years into this and I wish I could say it gets better, for me .. not so much.

  6. I hate the damn fact that I had to lose to make another woman whole. Its just not fair

  7. Claud…You so rock lady!!! Keep on, YOU ARE making a difference. I have learned sooo much from you…thanks doll!

  8. I am a birthmother as well with a blog.

  9. Thanks for the resource. It’s great to see this list. Wondering if you could add my blog–
    Also, my memoir about my secret teen-age pregnancy and the subsequent relinquishment of my son has recently bee published by Shebooks, if you’d like to take a look. Thanks, I’d appreciate it.

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