Open Adoptive Mom Lori Holden

Brace Face

By Lori Holden Through their orthodontic treatments, I watched as my kids’ smiles got gorgeouser and gorgouser. And I got jealouser and jealouser. So then I got braces. Again. Yes, at my age. I decided it wasn’t a sin to treat myself, so I had a consultation, signed a contract with Dr Vyas (love her), and got my … Continue reading Brace Face → The post Brace Face appeared first…

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#flipthescript 12: A 1970s Adoption Story

By Lori Holden A friend from high school reached out to tell me that her biological mother had died. She told me that the whole thing had been a nightmare and that I should write about it. Here is Cheryl’s story, part of November’s #flipthescript series in which adoptees take over the microphone.Image: Tracy HammondHow I Got Informally AdoptedCheryl: … Continue reading #flipthescript 12: A 1970s Adoption Story → The…


#flipthescript 11: Abuse to Adoption to Addiction to Affirmation

By Lori Holden Only recently did Michael Schwerman realize that being adopted at age 12 by a step father was not nothing — as he’d always thought — nor was the difficult relationship he’s had with his mother. He’s figuring out that instead, the circumstances around his adoption and rejection shaped his life and affected his future. Adopted … Continue reading #flipthescript 11: Abuse to Adoption to Addiction to Affirmation…


I Got Jackassed. TWICE.

By Lori Holden The parking lot was not full when I drove up. I slid into one of many available spots, grabbed my mat and headed in to a yoga class. I got some exercise, met my physical and mental edge, practiced staying present, and closed with a moment of stillness.That last step was important.Because when I came … Continue reading I Got Jackassed. TWICE. → The post I Got…


#flipthescript 10: I Guessed My Birth Mother’s First Name

By Lori Holden Lenore Paletta found out she was born Giuseppina Morellato in Italy. With aching candor, she shares a portion of her search for her identity.The #flipthescript series gives adoptees the microphone during November, National Adoption Awareness Month.Image: Tracy HammondWhen I Think of SearchingI guessed my birth mother’s first name. Yes, I really did. I was sitting … Continue reading #flipthescript 10: I Guessed My Birth Mother’s First Name…


#flipthescript 9: The Healing Power of Open Adoption

By Lori Holden Paula Fahey was born, relinquished, and adopted during the closed adoption era. She experienced the happy/sad of adoption — she loved her parents yet she wondered about her birth parents. She’s now also on the birth family side of an open adoption and weighs in on the element of openness.The #flipthescript series gives adoptees the … Continue reading #flipthescript 9: The Healing Power of Open Adoption →…


Stillness in Contentiousness

By Lori Holden I’m craving stillness as we in the United States near the end of this particularly contentious election season. Stillness takes us from the frenetic edge of the spinning sphere to the still center, to our core.Stillness is how we bring unity from duality. And I don’t know about you, but boy, have I been feeling duality, … Continue reading Stillness in Contentiousness → The post Stillness in…