Open Adoptive Mom Lori Holden

“Nobody Should Ever Feel Like They’re a Mistake”

By Lori Holden Elijah Thomas, who just turned 24, was determined to find his birth father. In a sort of reverse Gotcha, he shares with us the story of his adoption reunion. Adoption is Never Totally Closed in Our Hearts. First off, I am no adoption expert. I don’t recommend what I did for everyone. Ultimately I think … Continue reading “Nobody Should Ever Feel Like They’re a Mistake” →…

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#flipthescript 15: No Easy Button in Adoption

By Lori Holden Tracy Hammond is a baby scoop era adoptee and adoptee rights activist. This is her second post here in this #flipthescript series (the first: Why Are Adoptees Doing It?), in which adopted people take over the microphone in this space for November’s National Adoption Awareness Month.You may not agree with everything that is said in these … Continue reading #flipthescript 15: No Easy Button in Adoption →…


#flipthescript 14: Adoption & Eating Disorders

By Lori Holden Jodi Haywood returns for the third November in a row (2014 post | 2015 post) to participate in the #flipthscript movement, in which adopted people take over the microphone in this space for November’s National Adoption Awareness Month.You may not agree with everything that is said in these #flipthescript posts. You may even find parts … Continue reading #flipthescript 14: Adoption & Eating Disorders → The post…


#flipthescript 13: Healing & Hope for an Adoptee

By Lori Holden The subtitle of Anne Bauer’s memoir is An Adoptee’s Quest for her Origins because one of the main reasons she wrote The Sound of Hope was to “get people to realize how damaging it is to make adoptees feel guilty when they want to know about their origins.”Three years ago, we wrapped up her book … Continue reading #flipthescript 13: Healing & Hope for an Adoptee →…


When I Lived in Aleppo

By Lori Holden Early in our marriage, my husband and I liquidated or stored most of our meager belongings, hopped a plane, and landed in one of the beigest places we’d ever seen. We set out on our first adventure together — teaching at an international school in Aleppo, Syria (known regionally as Halab).I want to share with … Continue reading When I Lived in Aleppo → The post When…


#flipthescript 12: A 1970s Adoption Story

By Lori Holden A friend from high school reached out to tell me that her biological mother had died. She told me that the whole thing had been a nightmare and that I should write about it. Here is Cheryl’s story, part of November’s #flipthescript series in which adoptees take over the microphone.Image: Tracy HammondHow I Got Informally AdoptedCheryl: … Continue reading #flipthescript 12: A 1970s Adoption Story → The…


#flipthescript 11: Abuse to Adoption to Addiction to Affirmation

By Lori Holden Only recently did Michael Schwerman realize that being adopted at age 12 by a step father was not nothing — as he’d always thought — nor was the difficult relationship he’s had with his mother. He’s figuring out that instead, the circumstances around his adoption and rejection shaped his life and affected his future. Adopted … Continue reading #flipthescript 11: Abuse to Adoption to Addiction to Affirmation…