Open Adoptive Mom Lori Holden

The Adoption Split in “This Is Us” & How to Help Heal It

By Lori Holden Did you tune in to NBC’s This Is Us last week? Randall brings up the Adoption Split. And with this meme I reiterate a remedy I often talk about: openness. It’s with openness (not necessarily contact) that the grownups in an adoption can help their child integrate and heal. Randall Pearson, a transracial adoptee on … Continue reading The Adoption Split in “This Is Us” & How…

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Everybody Owns a Scar: Trials in an Open Foster Adoption

By Lori Holden Lynn Sollitto tells of the difficulties that arose for her when a desire to remain open to her daughters’ first mother collided with the imperative to protect her children from unsafe and unpredictable situations — either which could lead to physical and/or emotional trauma. Foster Adoption / Infant Adoption In 2008, my husband and I … Continue reading Everybody Owns a Scar: Trials in an Open Foster…


Update: the Mom Whose Son Left to Live with Birth Mom

By Lori Holden A year ago I published a letter from Charlene that explained her son had found his birth mother and they had all attended his college graduation. The reunion had gone so well that the son had decided to move to another state to live with his birth mom and get to know his biological family. … Continue reading Update: the Mom Whose Son Left to Live with…


Book Review: Patricia Florin’s “A Life Let Go”

By Lori Holden I’ll cut to the chase: I loved this book. Months ago author Patricia Florin sent me A Life Let Go to review. I had a big stack of books in my queue and not enough reading time to get to hers in a gracious manner, but I finally got time to read during our recent … Continue reading Book Review: Patricia Florin’s “A Life Let Go” →…


Top o’ the Summer To Ye

By Lori Holden Earlier this month, Roger and I boarded a flight with our two teenagers for a family trip to Ireland. Once in Dublin we met up with my husband’s father and sister. We were three generations ranging in age from 14 to 81 (at any point in time, you can bet that someone had to stop … Continue reading Top o’ the Summer To Ye → The post…


9 Tips to Long term Success in Parenting Through Adoption

By Lori Holden Technically, the title is “9 Steps to Long Term Success in Parenting Through Embryo Adoption.” But practically, this webinar applies to parenting through adoption of other types: traditional, international, foster, open, as well as other third party reproduction methods like donor egg, donor sperm, donor embryo. And closed. This message is especially for people inclined … Continue reading 9 Tips to Long term Success in Parenting Through…


Commencement

By Lori Holden Last week I got be the commencement speaker for the graduating class of 2017 at the school where I teach. Even though the audience was smaller than the adoption agency groups I usually present to, I got about ten thousand times more nervous this time. The people in the audience here know me. Afterwards, some … Continue reading Commencement → The post Commencement appeared first on Lavender…