Surviving Adopted

Letter to Indiana Legislators in Support of SB91

By Laura Marie Scoggins I am writing to encourage your support of Senate Bill 91 which will allow ALL Hoosier Adoptees equal access to their original birth certificates. Pre 1994 adoptees deserve the same access as post 1994 adoptees. One of the most common questions adoptees are asked when they tell people they are searching for their biological family or have been reunited is “why would you even want to…

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Just Get Over It: The Narcissistic Adoptive Mom

By Laura Marie Scoggins One of the best things that has come out of open records legislation is the connections and community of adoptees. Adoptees are only truly understood by each other, and most of us live our lives without other adoptees to express what life adopted is like. In addition to reunions unfolding each day with birth families the biggest reunion of all just might be OUR reunion in…


Letter to Indiana Legislators in Support of SB352

By Laura Marie Scoggins I am an adult adoptee writing in support of SB352 coming up for a vote on Tuesday. I cannot stress how important this vote is to 350,000 Hoosier adoptees who have waited a lifetime to obtain their records and original birth certificate. You have your original birth certificate. It’s my civil right to have mine as well. Back in 1999 I took advantage of the current…


The Paradox of Adoption Grief

By Laura Marie Scoggins It has been 15 years since I found out my birth mother died of breast cancer. My story had a lot of twists and turns until two years later I was able to walk into the office of Catholic Charities and obtain her true identity. How those events unfolded and why it took so long is a long story. Search, reunion and even the post reunion…


Ohio Opens Sealed Adoption Records

By Laura Marie Scoggins Today is Independence Day for Ohio adoptees. Today is the day that 400,000 Ohio adoptees from the closed records adoption era are finally allowed legal access to their original birth certificate. Records for adoptions before 1964 and after September 1996 were not sealed, but for those of us adopted during the years in between our records were. Today we finally have access to those records. I…


Healing From Unexpected Places

By Laura Marie Scoggins Back during my middle school years I was a huge Shaun Cassidy fan. My bedroom was plastered with posters including the ceiling. I had all the latest issues of Tiger Beat and Teen Beat. I sat in front of the TV each week in anticipation for the next episode of the Hardy Boys. I had all of his albums. I knew all of his songs. Needless…


When the Lost Get Found

By Laura Marie Scoggins In all of us there is a hunger, marrow-deep, to know our heritage-to know who we are and where we have come from. Without this enriching knowledge, there is a hollow yearning. No matter what our attainments in life, there is still a vacuum, an emptiness, and the most disquieting loneliness.     – Alex Haley, Roots It was a cold January day with snow on the…