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Every voice of every adoptee blog here is speaking for the thousands of adoptees who are still children and not have found their voices, yet. Yes, every adoption experience is individual and different, but the range of human emotion knows no bounds.

Read, learn.

These most gifted of writers open up their hearts and souls so that you might understand.

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These are blogs written from older adoptees,and younger adoptees, domestic adoptions, international adoptions, adoptees in reunions, angry adoptees, grateful adoptees, abused adoptees, adoptees who love their birthparents, adoptees that hate their birthparents, adoptees who love their adoptive families and adoptees that don’t. There are adoptees who fight for adoptee rights and adoptees that don’t.

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The adoptee blog feeds above are from the adoptee blogs written from throughout the adoption community. I keep them on Friendfeed  and have to have two lists because there are THAT many adoptee blogs! All are welcome to use the code and add to your own blogs or website. This way you get the most recent blog post from adoptees all in one place. Feel free to email me for the codes at fixadoption at


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About the Author

Musings of the Lame was started in 2005 primarily as a simple blog recording the feelings of a birthmother as she struggled to understand how the act of relinquishing her first newborn so to adoption in 1987 continued to be a major force in her life. Built from the knowledge gained in the adoption community, it records the search for her son and the adoption reunion as it happened. Since then, it has grown as an adoption forum encompassing the complexity of the adoption industry, the fight to free her sons adoption records and the need for Adoptee Rights, and a growing community of other birthmothers, adoptive parents and adopted persons who are able to see that so much what we want to believe about adoption is wrong.

21 Comments on "Blogs Written by Adoptees"

  1. I would like to say that as an adoptee who found out when I was 21 because my selfish sperm donor decided I should know. Well I didn’t. I wish I didn’t know. He walked away like a scumbag and someone else raised me and took time out that he didn’t have to just to be my dad. I am now 28 and my dad is who raised me and made me who I am today. My Sperm donor that gave me away at 5 is just that a sperm donor. So I think that Peter Carucci is doing what he should to keep people like me protected. My SD didn’t not find me through the State but on his own. I feel nothing for him. He should have just left me alone.

  2. I’m not going to try to tell you that you shouldn’t be angry or have a right to your feelings or try to defend what you biological father did or did not do.
    I can tell you that I find it sad that you did not know the truth the whole time and you had to be told at age 21. THAT would make me angry as heck. I can’t help but wonder if maybe some of the anger you feel towards bio dad isn’t misplaced anger in general? I’m betting that even suggesting that will get you angry at me, but it might be worth thinking about.

    I am assuming this is a step dad / real father situation and your mom was constant? My husband was in he same boat as that and found out at age 17, but he was never leaglly adopteed by his step after, they just lied from the get go and put the step dads name on the OBC. I know he felt betrayed by his whole family because they all knew.

    The thing is.. it might not have been so bad and made you as angry if you had always known. And that what Mr. Carucci and the old NYS laws are trying to do. Honestly, whther you like the guy or not, it’s YOUR truth and you had a RIGHT to know. You can still choose who in your heart is Daddy to you. And you can still choose who you have a realtionship with. Does Peter Carucci know you? Did he know this would work out for you or not? Did he ask? No, he doesn’t even choose to know the truth about the laws!

    What you cannot change is your medical background. And someday, you might need to find your biological father for that alone. If you ever found yourself in a situation where you have a dying child who needs a bone marrow transplant, you might change the way you are thinking. Or if you find that you have breast cancer and your medical insurance refuses to test you to see if your daughters carry the gene, then it might be better to know the real truth.
    The fact is you can’t change the truth no matter what we would like. Your Dad is not biologically realted to you no matter how much you might love him. You carry another man’s genes. No one has or had the right to alter your truth.

  3. Please add my blog ‘One Was Von’ to this list thanks.

  4. Hi Claud..can you add my blog too?

    Title: Out of the Fog



  5. Consider it done! 🙂

  6. WP, you are listed and in the feed! Blog on sister!

  7. I am an adult adoptee whose parents were honest with me from the get go. I reunited with my birth family at age 25. I am also an adoptive mother to 6 children and 3 embryos. One of which became our precious 8th child! Feel free to add my blog to your roll.

  8. Great Blog! My partner Carol found out in her late 40’s from a cousin that she was adopted. She is now 52 and meeting her mother for the first time in June. She has started her blog – for healing of course – but she is such a terrific writer I thought you might like to list her blog as well. She will be expanding it to include resources for others. It’s her intention to strike a balance between her emotional journey and providing help and resources for others as they move along their journey as well. Her blog is Adoptee for Life located at: Thank you. Margie

  9. Adoption Trail – 4 Generations. I am one of 4 generations of adopted persons. My paternal grandmother, myself, 5 of my children, and 2 grandchildren. Please add me to your list of blogs. Thank you. Jill

  10. I am having a lot of issues about my adoption recently.
    Is there someone (counselor,e.g.) that can help me resolve them?
    My daughter turned 23 recently, and I am acutely aware that she is likely the only “blood” I will ever know in my life.
    This, of course, is not the biggest issue, but it brought up a lot of old things that I thought I had dealt with, but now come flooding into my consciousness – some violent and vengeful.
    i do not know how to address these things.

    • There ARE therapists that do handle adoption issues, BUT too many folks do report that MANY therapists are just clueless. Unfortunately, the ‘adoption issues” covered in standard training are nil; not a course offered in post graduate studies, not a specialty, not a book recommendation, not even a CHAPTER in a book… and from this in training, barley even a mention that adoption creates issues. On top of that. IF any adoption is covered it is usually form the adoptees or the adoptive parents side.. almost NEVER a birth parents.. however there ARE a few in the country who ARE also birth parents themselves and therefore, know their stuff.
      It seems to be helpful, as there are few adoption specialists for birth parents, to look into a therapist who focus on grief and loss counselling.
      Form my own observations of people; I think your feelings are probably well within the spectrum of normal. It is VERY common for our feelings of anger, loss and sadness to grow over time because what we lost has grown over time. Depending on how you felt at the time, you lost a “baby”, but now, it’s not “just a baby” but her entire childhood; the first steps, words, day of school, etc. And maybe even back in the day, we assume that we can move on, there can be more children, and for you, that was not that case. On top of that, our brains have a way of letting us feel and process stuff when it is “safe” meaning you are at a point in your life now where subconsciously, you can deal with it.. even as it is horrible ans sucky. And why should you NOT feel vengeful and angry? THAT”S a normal reaction to someone, or in this case, the adoption industry, taking what should have been yours.. your daughter. Thinking violent thoughts is way different form acting on them.. so feel them. There is nothing wrong at all there..

  11. I am an adoptee who finally came in Contact With my Biological family. I have yet to meet them. But I have a new blog where I will be giving advice and also share my life stories as I go. I am new the the blog world how ever I have lots to share as well as try to answer all the questions you ask me. My goal is to bring adoptees together because we ourselves are a family. “Adoptees United, Adoptees We Stand.”

    here is my link to my Blog

  12. Thank you for this! Would you consider adding my brand new adoptee blog?

  13. Thank you for this great list of adoptee blogs! Some of the blogs listed here I haven’t come across until now. I can’t wait to start reading. It really helps/validates to read other’s experiences…Can I add mine to the list please? I am an intercountry adoptee and I blog at

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