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- Adopt-a-tude
- a family affair
- A Few Pieces Missing From Normalcy – An Infertile Man’s Perspective
- American Family
- Anti-Adoption
- Consider the Kid
- Diarrhea of a madman
- Fake Tits & Demon Horns
- FAMILY PRESERVATION ADVOCACY
- Kimchi Mamas
- Latest Activity on Ethica
- My Blog
- My Part of the Journey
- omegamom.com
- The Open Window
- Paradise Preoccupied
- Parents for Ethical Adoption Reform
- perigee-apogee-perigee
- Rights of Adoptees
- The Scoop
- Sleeps With Bastard
- Sunshine Girl on a Rainy Day: words of wisdom from a former Foster Child
- THEOCONIA: A CENTRAL OHIO THEOCON REPORT
- The HalfSister
- Where Do We Fit In The Picture?
What I dont understand is the fact that contraception is only 97 percent affective. So if you have sex there’s a 3 percent chance you could get pregnant. If you dont want a baby then dont have sex. Did you know that in Holland the legal age for consent is only 12 years. I personally think its far too young, here in the UK where I am from its 16. Holland also has one of the lowest rates of teenage pregnancies in the world. They have excellent sex education, and are taught that there are consequences for every action, the action of having sex is likely to result in the creation of a life. That’s why they have a low age of consent and why a low rate of teenage pregnancies I have 2 teenage sons, they know not only can you create life having sex you can also get sexually transmitted diseases. They are able to talk to both me and their dad about anything regarding sex. I say to them as they are male think with the head on your shoulders before you think with the one in your pants…it could cost you your life in more ways than one!!
Sounds great on paper, Lisa Jayne. And you keep on telling yourself that your son’s will be fine and dandy because you have done your motherly edication; but here’s some facts for you.
Telling ANYONE that the best way to NOT get Pregnant is to NOT have sex is waiting for a positive pregnancy test. Abstinence only policies have the biggest failure rate. I suggest you read some more studies. http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/publications-a-z/409-the-truth-about-abstinence-only-programs
It’s really simple and might feel good to blame others as a personal failure that they got pregnant when they didn’t intend to, but it is also quite ignorant and short sighted. It also ignores a very basic rule.. people have sex. Teens want to have sex because it’s normal, biological and instinctual. Adults who don’t want children have sex too. The problem isn’t the sex. The problem isn’t even the failure of birth control. The failure is our reactions to the unintended pregnancy and your blame is definiately part of the problem.
Let me ask you this? With two teenage sons I am assuming that you are not planning on having any more children? All done? So do YOU still have sex? Do you use birth control with that same 3% failure rate? Or do you follow your own standards for the rest of us? Don’t want anymore babies, then don’t have sex? I guess in that version of the world only the physically infertile folks can have a enjoyable sex life? The rest of us are just in it for the procreation? How about sex WHILE pregnant? Is that OK?