About Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy

Professional Rabble Rouser and Online Activist

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy Adoption ActivistClaudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. She originally began independently researching adoption issues in preparation of the successful search and reunion with her own son, Max, whom was placed for adoption in 1987.

Growing Online as a Birthmother

From humble beginnings on the now defunct Adoption Cafe and MSN Group Adoption Message boards, her knowledge of adoption and the internet grew together. From forums, to blogs, to the rise in social networking, Claudia has continued to see the internet as a powerful tool that allows isolated communities to find each other and, most importantly, find their voices and be heard. She has become a forerunner in the use of social networking for the online adoption community.

Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding.

Adoption to Corporations and Back to Adoption Again

Professionally, her work with the adoption community lead her to a career as a corporate blogger and SEO copywriter. Her writings have been published under many pen names.

She is the former the Director of Social Media at DragonSearch, an internet marketing firm in the Hudson Valley. In July 2012, she left this position to focus full time on the needs of the adoption community and launch her own consulting business with Adopting Social. This life change allows her to practice what she preaches to her clients; follow your passions, be real, and you never know where you might end up.

Indeed, the internet has opened many new doors to adventures for Claudia, both privately and professionally. Hence, why the ROI of social media is not something that can be measured.

The Journey Cannot Be Measured

Since becoming active, Claudia also initiated a search for her son adopted at birth. She later found and contacted Max directly through MySpace in 2005, long before Facebook became the adoption search tool of choice. After almost 2 years of contact, they met for the first time in March ’07. All four of her children were reunited later the same year.

Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine, Adopt-a-tude.com, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She is  a member of the Land of a Gazillion Adoptees team and serves on the board of directors of the Adoptee Rights Coalition.

She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. Most recently, she authored a piece for The New York Times’s parenting blog, becoming the first birthmother published on the Motherlode.

She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.


 Read the latest posts from Claud below:

What The Camera Missed

By Cassi By this time, it’s very few who haven’t gotten more than their fair share of the pictures that have gone viral. Pictures that show the story of a desperate couple and their desire to adopt a newborn. Pictures that show their joy, their happiness at claiming the child they so desired. Pictures that, conveniently, leave out the mother of this child. The one who went through nine months loving and nurturing her little girl. Who gave birth only to face the terrible reality she would then face a new life of being without her own child. Her own flesh and blood.Over the past few days, these pictures, the story of these adoptive parents, have been everywhere! And, as is the norm for our society, anything that mentions loss for the mother and/or the baby is met with anger and attacks. It’s not allowed. We all must be positive. We must celebrate with this couple and believe that this baby has just been saved from some terrible, tragic life and will forever be grateful for losing everything – her family, identity, heritage – in order to satisfy the desires of this couple seeking a third child to read more…

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Adoption Romance and the Subtle and Pervasive Influence We Are All Subjected To

By AstridBeeMom When us “older” birthmoms try to tell pregnant women, who are planning on giving up their babies, that they have fallen for the coercion of the industry, we are often faced with opposition. Whether that industry is agencies, attorneys, or the media, in general, they all seem to parrot the same types of statements.
“I’m not even working with an agency so how is it possible for them to coerce me?”
“I’m not being coerced, I made this decision before I even contacted an agency.”
“That’s not possible because I’m running the show and everything that is happening is because I want it to happen.”
When you tell them that their views on adoption have been shaped by the subtle messages being conveyed by the industry, they deny ever really thinking about adoption until they became pregnant. Even our media, it seems, has been charmed by the industry.
I’m sure, by now, you’ve all seen the photographs that were posted showing a happy adoptive couple with the new baby that was “delivered to them” via the stork. Yes, the stork. Their words, not mine. In fact, it was a “stork drop” read more…

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Pupa: The Transition Stage

I have been in a bad funk while I have been waiting for my hair to grow out so I can cut it off. At least waiting for ONE of the two has come to an end.I cut off all my hair. Not sure if this a transitional color. Not sure if this is still part of the transitional stage. Not sure if I am ready to come out of my chrysalis quite yet, but trying to jump start this processes at least. read more…

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Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — !

By Lori Holden Two weeks ago I asked what you thought about the term “tummy mummy.” Boy, did you have a lot to say. Among the nearly 300 respondents, who chimed in? 66% were adopting or adoptive parents 11% were adoptees 13% had a professional or nonprofessional interest in adoption 10% had placed a child or lost a … Continue reading Tummy Mummy in Adoption: Survey SAYS — ! →
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Complete and Total Transparency: Saving Our Sisters is Attacked

By AstridBeeMom Original Post about this: SOS Update: Mom in Georgia
I really hate that I have to do this. It’s ridiculous, but now it’s necessary. Since publicly announcing that we are no longer endorsing the campaign for the mom in Georgia, we have had a lot of accusations thrown our way all over the internet. Most of these come from the family and friends of the mom. One person, however, is Beth S. Brock. Beth is a member of the adoption community and had signed up to be a volunteer person for Saving Our Sisters. Since she lived close to the mom in Georgia we utilized that as our local contact person. Since then, Beth has, regrettably, participated in a smear campaign and has decided that she no longer supports SOS. She has accused us of fraud and keeps claiming the FBI is now investigating us as well as there being “pending charges.” Honestly, I believe it is a lot of “fluff” since this all supposedly transpired on a Sunday evening. Because of the actions of others, and a read more…

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SOS Update: Mom in Georgia

By AstridBeeMom Update: Mom and sister are now attacking Lynn via her SOS page and have had her account removed from Facebook.
Mom’s name is Dana Jackson
Sister’s name is Beverly Oliver Crowson
First I need to say that the mother in Georgia’s situation was totally legit. She was put on the streets by the hopeful adoptive parents. She did need money for her own apartment. Her sister did take her in so she had a place to stay. However, and regrettably, Saving Our Sisters is going to have to pull support from this case. It’s a long and drawn out story but I’ll do my best to explain it here. We never want to have to step away and leave a mother without our support system. We have an army of people ready and willing to help and help they do. We have helped numerous people avoid adoption relinquishment and successfully parent. The reason this works is because there is cooperation between the mother and SOS. The reason we are able to help all of these mothers is because of our credibility. read more…

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Adoption Creates a “Split at the Root”

By Mirah Riben In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future.
Alex Haley
I am not a fan, in general, of adoption memoirs perhaps because I have read too may. Most are elongated, detailed blog posts. Split at the Root: a memoir of love and lost identity stands head and shoulders above the run-of-the-mill adoption memoir. If Oprah was still on their air, this book would easily have made her list of recommended reading for anyone who likes a well-written autobiography. It is the story of a woman with “three distinct races running through [her] veins” yet ”no racial or ethnic frame of
Catana was a loved and doted over Black child, raised by privileged White German parents in a German community in Guatemala who gave her everything and anything she wanted.
As a child she loved the story her mother told her of awakening very early one morning and finding Baby Catana floating in on a leaf, not unlike the Pharaoh’s daughter finding Baby Moses. While the truth was far less romantic, Catana’s “adoption” is far from a classic adoption. read more…

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By AstridBeeMom I won’t get into the ethics of having an expectant mother live with you so that you can adopt her baby, or how despicable it is to throw her out on the street hours after giving birth because she changed her mind and you’re hoping to force her into relinquishment with homelessness, but I will plead with everyone her to rally around Dana. She is a new Saving Our Sisters mother. I will post screen shots of Dana’s gofundme page as well as the link if you’d like to contribute financially.
As it stands now, her friend has only raised $60 for her.
Yet, I see tons of fundraising pages for prospective adoptive parents doing thousands in hours. Shameful.

Here it is. Your chance to shine. Offer $10, offer a shoulder to lean on, offer those baby clothes in the garage, offer a room in your home. Don’t stand there and do nothing.
Help a Homeless Mother Keep Her Baby
More updates to follow as soon as there is more information. Initial contact has been made.Filed under: saving our sisters

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Hi, My Name Is…

By AstridBeeMom Astrid Beemom.
I’ve remained mostly anonymous on this blog so as not to make waves should my daughter’s adoptive parents happen across it. I feared that my feelings about adoption may make them decide to close the adoption totally on me. Almost a month ago I wrote them an email, updated them about our lives. I still haven’t received a response.
I’ve decided that I really don’t wish to remain that anonymous anymore. For obvious reasons I’m not going to give you all my identifying information. I mean, come on, that would be irresponsible. However, I will show you what I look like and tell you my name.
I should not have to live my life with the fear of being totally cut off from knowing what is going on in my daughter’s life just because I share my story, just because I share reality, just because I expose unethical practices, and just because I help women parent their children. That is, however, the reality for many of us first moms.
Stay in the shadows or risk the unbearable pain of wondering if your child is okay, happy, healthy….alive. Isn’t that sweet?
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My Kid Has No Adoption Issues. That a Problem?

By Lori Holden Question: My daughter is 8 and really, it feels as though she’s having no adoption issues. None at all. Is it possible for her to just be well adjusted about adoption? — Laurel Dear Laurel: I do believe it’s possible. We should welcome, recognize and show gratitude when our kids are seemingly well-adjusted. Enjoy the … Continue reading My Kid Has No Adoption Issues. That a Problem? →
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The Popular Table

By Cassi So . . . there are many reasons why I have been so neglectful here on my blog.One of the greatest ones is I’m finally giving myself permission to concentrate on my other writing without feeling guilty for doing so. I can still help. I can still support pregnant mothers in need. I can still be an advocate for adoption reform and adoptee rights.But it’s okay, at this point in my life, to do that on a smaller scale so that I can concentrate on all I walked away from back when I faced some of the worst struggles in giving up my oldest son.Another reason is . . . regardless of how many times there were the claims that the “new” First Moms would be happier and have better experiences . . . they are speaking out more and more. And their blogs are amazing. They have such powerful messages to tell. And because their experiences are so much closer to the “here and now” it’s easier to step back and read more…

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What I Want To Tell You; For IKL

By AstridBeeMom I’ve used this missing piece of my heart to build something beautiful. Nothing will ever replace you, but I’ve decided to fight for truth, justice, and for those who have no voice.
My greatest fear has always been that you may stumble on my little corner of the Internet and that it may scare you away. I certainly hope that doesn’t happen.
I’ve always been the champion of the underdog. Fighting for or against things that seemingly have no chance in hell. For things that no one else will listen to. Its in my nature. Maybe it’s also in yours.
When someone comes to me for help, I usually can never say no. Whether that be to help them find their biological parents, or to give exposure to an unethical practice within the adoption industry. I’ve learned so much from so many people over the past 2 years. My eyes have been opened. I truly hope that you are not one of the ones to have been negatively affected by your adoption. I REALLY do. However, mixed in with read more…

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Update to Kimberly Rossler Case; More of the Same

By AstridBeeMom Some new stuff in Kimberly Rossler’s case this evening.
Sources report that Judge Don Davis has recused himself, which is good. As you may remember, he was the judge who approved Kimberly’s pre-birth consent. There were also huge conflicts of interest as he sits on the advisory board of Adoption Rocks, the agency that isn’t an agency who Kim initially contacted in regards to a potential adoption for Elliott. As you may also remember, from my previous posts, Donna Ames is the President and founder of Adoption Rocks AND the attorney who represented Kate Sharp for the adoption. She also, coincidentally, campaigned for Judge Don Davis last year, along with several of her associates from the Mobile Bar Association. Lastly, she is the one who brought Kimberly before Judge Don Davis for the pre-birth consent and was advising her throughout her pregnancy, even though Donna Ames admits, in her official statement, that she never represented Kim. Kimberly, however, didn’t get that memo.
Judge Don Davis recusing himself is, indeed, good news. However, from what I’m hearing, that isn’t the end of the story. I’m not quite sure, but after reading Alabama’s code, I THINK read more…

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Summer Reading: New Adoption Books

By Lori Holden With about half the summer left, I offer you a harvest of new adoption books that have recently become available. Here are some that have come into my mailbox or across my radar. New Adoption Books 2015 Hole in My Heart by Lorraine Dusky For: adults Lorraine, known to many as one of the driving … Continue reading Summer Reading: New Adoption Books →
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Self Dealing – The Elliott Rossler Case

By AstridBeeMom AstridBeeMom:And this.
Originally posted on Adoption: Second Generation Birthmom:
The last few weeks have been triggering. I have to speak up. Recently, there has been an avalanche of information floating around adoption land having to do with pre-birth consent for adoption, and the right to change your mind about adoption as the natural parent of your baby.

You would think the laws and legislation would be black and white on these matters, but when you bring self dealing attorneys, judges, and a desperate childless single woman , you have muddy waters.

These people are acting in a self dealing capacity. This is different from a conflict of interest. The definition of self dealing is here:

Self–dealing is the conduct of a trustee, an attorney, a corporate officer, or other fiduciary that consists of taking advantage of his/her position in a transaction and acting for his/her own interests rather than for the interests of the beneficiaries of the…
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