About Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy

Professional Rabble Rouser and Online Activist

Claudia Corrigan D'Arcy Adoption ActivistClaudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. She originally began independently researching adoption issues in preparation of the successful search and reunion with her own son, Max, whom was placed for adoption in 1987.

Growing Online as a Birthmother

From humble beginnings on the now defunct Adoption Cafe and MSN Group Adoption Message boards, her knowledge of adoption and the internet grew together. From forums, to blogs, to the rise in social networking, Claudia has continued to see the internet as a powerful tool that allows isolated communities to find each other and, most importantly, find their voices and be heard. She has become a forerunner in the use of social networking for the online adoption community.

Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding.

Adoption to Corporations and Back to Adoption Again

Professionally, her work with the adoption community lead her to a career as a corporate blogger and SEO copywriter. Her writings have been published under many pen names.

She is the former the Director of Social Media at DragonSearch, an internet marketing firm in the Hudson Valley. In July 2012, she left this position to focus full time on the needs of the adoption community and launch her own consulting business with Adopting Social. This life change allows her to practice what she preaches to her clients; follow your passions, be real, and you never know where you might end up.

Indeed, the internet has opened many new doors to adventures for Claudia, both privately and professionally. Hence, why the ROI of social media is not something that can be measured.

The Journey Cannot Be Measured

Since becoming active, Claudia also initiated a search for her son adopted at birth. She later found and contacted Max directly through MySpace in 2005, long before Facebook became the adoption search tool of choice. After almost 2 years of contact, they met for the first time in March ’07. All four of her children were reunited later the same year.

Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine, Adopt-a-tude.com, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She is  a member of the Land of a Gazillion Adoptees team and serves on the board of directors of the Adoptee Rights Coalition.

She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. Most recently, she authored a piece for The New York Times’s parenting blog, becoming the first birthmother published on the Motherlode.

She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.


 Read the latest posts from Claud below:

Totes Adorbs

By Lori Holden Take a little bit of poodle and add in some bichon. Mix together and you end up with my sweet, sweet, funny, sweet, thoroughly adorable Dexter. (Alert: when you hit play you’ll hear music.) Six Months of Dexter in 15 Seconds More gratuitous Dexter pics are just a click away. ~~~ This post is part … Continue reading Totes Adorbs →
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How to Explain to Children Differing Levels of Openness in Adoption

By Lori Holden Dear Lavvie: How do we explain different levels of openness to our children? We have a very close relationship with our son’s birth mother and his biological brother and grandparents but because of our daughter’s birth mother’s lifestyle our relationship with her and her other children is limited. Our children are only 2 and … Continue reading How to Explain to Children Differing Levels of Openness in Adoption →
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American Adoption Congress Speech ~ May 4, 1979

By Susie I’ve seen this before. From a speech given at the first American Adoption Congress in Washington, DC. It’s not that I agree with every word that makes it hit home especially hard. It’s the date that this speech was given.May 4, 1979Just four days before Christopher was born. Just four days.Four Days I had no idea…I was not indifferent.My son was NOT unwanted. I did not wish to remain forever hidden from him.Sadly, 36 years later and this still rings true… ”It is the child welfare establishment that has provided the picture of birth mothers as indifferent – as mothers who abandon their unwanted children with a wish to remain forever hidden from them. They know that this is seldom true, but it helps to facilitate their work for the public to believe this. Society does not dismiss the importance of the natural family as readily as the social planners, and so it is useful to portray relinquishing parents as different from caring parents.””The birth mother must be different, an aberration; for if it were true that she had the same degree of love for her child as all other mothers, the read more…

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Being Blackish: Race and Self-Identification

By Mirah Riben Rachel Dolezal, former president of the NAACP of Spokane, Washington, was “outed” for being White and apparently lying. That aside, the question remains: can a person feel like or identify as another race in a way similar to taking on a new gender identity? Our Census Bureau seems to think that’s sufficient. The U.S. Census Bureau website states: “The Census Bureau collects racial data in accordance with guidelines provided by the U.S. Office of Management and Budget (OMB), and these data are based on self-identification.
“The racial categories included in the census questionnaire generally reflect a social definition of race recognized in this country and not an attempt to define race biologically, anthropologically, or genetically.”Black and White Thinking in a Multicolor World
The idea of race being ambiguous and fluid rather than assigned and immutable is not new. Rachel Dolezal did not invent the concept. In December 2008 USA Today reported on racial ambiguities on the heels of President Barack Obama – who has a Black father and a White mother – taking office.
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A World Changing Revolution? The Entrepreneur’s Manifesto

By Mirah Riben More than three billion people — nearly half the world’s population — live in poverty; more than 1.3 billion live in extreme poverty.
As Americans living on minimum wage are seeking a living wage, Steve Mariotti advocates revolution: a universal, democratic revolution that will benefit everyone.
In his latest book, An Entrepreneur’s Manifesto, the author posits that to sell a product or service to another is a revolutionary act, “an act that has the power to transform lives, rebuild families, and forever change communities.”The entrepreneurship revolution is a revolution of consciousness; it is an awakening of the natural inventiveness, creativity, and desire for freedom deeply rooted in the psyche of every human being.
Mariotti is an MBA who worked as a treasury analyst for Ford Motor Company and ran seven businesses by the age of 21. He has said that learning to embrace his dyslexia led to his success. “I can process information in a very unique way, which helps me see a a market, understand it, and teach young people about it.”
Mariotti’s life changed in 1981, when he was mugged by three teenage boys. He couldn’t read more…

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One of My Shortest Posts Ever

By Lori Holden I’m curating an online magazine called Open Adoption Matters, free to read on any of your devices. I hope you’ll subscribe. View my Flipboard Magazine. Also, my book is now out in paperback. $10 less than before. (My actual shortest post is here.) ~~~ This post is part of #MicroblogMondays? Whazzat? A post that’s not … Continue reading One of My Shortest Posts Ever →
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For the Fathers

By AstridBeeMom For the fathers who were never made aware they had a child, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who fought like hell to keep their children but the adoption industry won out, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who felt they had no other choice, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who were tricked, coerced, or lied to, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who were accused of horrible things so that the industry could obtain your child, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who are still fighting a David & Goliath battle, this one’s for you.
For the fathers who are about to embark down the path of hell but don’t know it yet, this one’s for you.
To the overlooked, under-represented, swept under the rug fathers out there, I see you. I hear you. Happy Father’s Day. This one’s for you.Filed under: adoptee, Adoption – Generalized, adoption coercion, Birthfather, fathers, Fathers Rights

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5 Mental Health Takeaways from Disney Pixar’s Inside Out

By Lori Holden As far back as I can remember I’ve been fascinated with how the mind works. In high school I wrote an essay on the subconscious and later I earned a degree in psychology in college. More recently, I started practicing yoga and meditation, as ways to bring the subconscious up to the conscious level on … Continue reading 5 Mental Health Takeaways from Disney Pixar’s Inside Out →
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I Tried to Communicate. She Got Hurt. Things Closed Down.

By Lori Holden Last week’s Dear Lavvie question was from an adoptive mom wanting to open herself up for her daughter’s sake in spite of past hurts. This week we have a birth family member who wonders how to pry open a relationship with the adoptive family in light of a perceived hurt. Dear Lavvie: I am an … Continue reading I Tried to Communicate. She Got Hurt. Things Closed Down. →
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 “Hole in My Heart” Lorraine Dusky’s New Adoption Memoir

“Hole in My Heart” isn’t light reading, but it is compelling and necessary. Perhaps it is best described as s strong dose of medicine; a strong antidote to adoption mythology, and a injection of raw honesty wrapped up in a riveting story of a life uncommon to most, much like a spoonful of sugar. The truth goes down smooth leaving needed ethical questions emerging as an aftertaste. read more…

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10 Things I Hate About Being a Birth Mother

By AstridBeeMom AstridBeeMom:So much this.
Originally posted on Out of the First Mom Closet:
1. I hate that I can not talk about it with most people.

The few friends I have spoken about it with have given me the pity “cancer” face. Holy Christ how I hate that fucking pity face. I get it, most people don’t know what to say and so they default to “the face”. So what would be better than “the face”? It is so hard for me to talk about my experience and so if I brought it up, please ask me questions. It does not hurt less not to talk about it.

2. I hate that most people think we are drug addicts, abusers, neglectful, uneducated, and ignorant.

In my experience, most people assume one if not all of these things about us. Yeah it’s true in some cases, but not in most I would wager. These stereotypes make it even harder to talk about the pain…
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Voices From AdoptionLand

By Mirah Riben “I feel like a stolen heart from a corpse, trapped in a foreign body.” Sunny Jo”This is not something that gets better over time. Because as you get older, as you live, you learn more and more about what’s been taken away from you. And you learn more and more about the enormity of what’s been stolen.” Cameron Horn”I feel like a ghost, invisible to the culture and society that brought me here, but also invisible to the community and culture of my birth. My heritage and the cultural umbilical cord having been severed at birth by transracial adoption – an act perceived to be responsible for saving my life.” Lucy Sheen
Compiled by Janine and Jenette Vance, AdoptionLand: From Orphans to Activists, is an indispensable contribution to adoption literature. The essays, poems and letters in this compilation reflect the thoughts, the feelings, the souls of those who inhabit AdoptionLand — a place of truth and acceptance for the casualties of the demand for children.
The anthology brings together twenty-eight men and women. Many are internationally and/or inter-racially adopted. Asian babies scattered around the globe like seeds read more…

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New York’s Adoptee Rights Amended Bill Disaster TAKE TWO

When you tell man who wrote a bill that he doesn’t know how to write a bill, you issue a challenge. When you insult him and he obviously picked up on that, he comes back at you with the bill he wrote to prove the point. And so, due to that meeting held by UI, our formally beautiful CLEAN NY OBC Adoptee rights bill with a lovely and simple contact preference, has been amended to a version of the 2104 disaster. This is what happens when you throw down the gauntlet. So yeah, the HORRIBLE NO GOOD VERY BAD BILL has come back. A2901 is now A2901A read more…

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The Curious World of Cirque du Soleil’s KURIOS

By Lori Holden What if by engaging our imagination and opening our minds we could unlock the door to a world of wonders? — KURIOS, Cabinet of Curiosities Summer brings space for family activities. There are SO many other people and happenings vying for our tween’s and teen’s attention; it’s nice when we can entice them to be … Continue reading The Curious World of Cirque du Soleil’s KURIOS →
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How Can We Open Up Our Adoption When We’ve Been Hurt So?

By Lori Holden Quesion from a reader asking for open adoption advice: We want an open adoption to avoid a future search for birth parents by our daughter one day, and we don’t want her to have to walk this path alone or to feel like she has to do it behind our backs or without our support. … Continue reading How Can We Open Up Our Adoption When We’ve Been Hurt So? →
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