So, Tomorrow is Officially Birthmother’s Day.
You know that that they give us to keep us separated from the “real” mothers of the world. Because, as you should know, it takes more than just giving birth to make a person a real mother. And being a birthmother, all we do is make the babies and give away our motherhood to another who is more deserving of being a mother and of course, more ready. So we can’t dare to count ourselves in on Mother’s Day. I say screw that!
Like most mothers who have relinquished, even with having three more children, Mother’s Day can be very bittersweet. No matter how loved or celebrate by those in life, Mothers Day is a reminder for what is not. It serves as a reminder for the years lost. For years of handmade presents that went to another mother who took your place. Of course, I don’t find that having a separate segregated holiday makes that any better.There is no peace for a birthmother on Mother’s Day. Did I say screw Birthmother’s Day yet?
Bless my lucky stars, I walked into the office this am and my darling co-worker Ms. Doom asked me, “Hey, Claud..want to go to Boston tomorrow for brunch?”
Road Trip to Boston; Just Happens to be on Birthmother’s Day
Seems there is work like function that she is up to road trip for. Love Ms. Doom..she is always up for an adventure. So of course, my answer all depended on a certain someone who might be in the general area. I immediately went for my phone to text that boy.
After a bit of readjusting the plans (Rye is moving furniture tomorrow so the kids came into the picture); the plan now stands that we are all..kids included..loading up in the early am and hitting the road! Max is spending quality time with his siblings while we do our #usGuys DragonSearch brunch and then we’ll all hang out! Scarlett is filming the whole thing… I love my docu-daughter… I think she will have a very interesting take on this whole adoption thing. And when I told her the plan she screeched so loud my ears rang! I would say there is much excitment in the air tonight.
I know I had the goofy smile on my face the whole day at the office.
I don’t know what thrills me most; I love a road trip adventure. I love going to Boston to see my son! And I even love the idea of having Ms. Doom meeting my oldest son ( shush.. they are the same age and she is very pretty and well, you know how Max is.. I have yenta hopes!) But, I have to admit, the idea of spending stupid Birthmother’s Day by knowing those three siblings will be spending time together gives me a real warm and fuzzy feeling inside. Something tells me they didn’t have that in mind when they planned out Birthmother’s Day.
And I think I’ll be happy just to spend a great day with great people and enjoy my children together.. as a MOTHER.
Ms. Doom, however, after 6 hours in the car with us all, might never be the same again!
I am so excited for you and your kids Claud!! I hope you have a fabulous day.
So happy for you!
What a fantastic weekend you’re all in for!
Enjoy your brood. Shall I wish Ms Doom a bit of luck?
Oh you should see my stupid grin for you Claud. Fuck all them. Fuck everything else. You’re going to be with your son.
Take that world!
Oh shit, yeah there’s a few tears. You will all have the most kick ass time and I can feel it.
Hope it was wonderful!
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Joy, IA told my daughter that her son, my grnsadon, a soldier serving in Iraq was a baby-killer and that she hoped he got killed in action. Comments like that are way over the line. I realize that she is damaged, but, as adults, we are all responsible for what we say to others and how we say it. I am damaged, as well. I was abandoned by my father when I was five, molested by an older cousin for years, abandoned and bad-mouthed by the father of my first child, raped and discarded by the father of my second child, lost my mother to sudden, unexpected death during Christmas of 1968 and lost a beloved stepson to suicide. I don’t think this gives me the right to say nasty things to people who are, in a civil manner, disagreeing with me. I do not think that adoption damage, on either end, excuses such behavior as IA exhibited.My daughter’s screen name is on her “hit list.” I’m sorry, but there is no sympathy here for her…pity, yes…sympathy, no.