Instinctual knowing your child cannot be replicated in Adoption. It must be really scary to an adoptive parent. For the natural parents have the one thing that they cannot ever have; the true cognitive, cellular bond.
And it is just not any fun. Rye had a cold and thankfully, it was not that bad for him. I am selfish and do not say thankfully for his benefit, but for mine, as he becomes the most miserable man child on the face of the earth when he is sick. The cold made it was though to both Garin and Tristan and myself. Garin did OK and Tristan…
Carol Anderson’s 1982 adoption reunion classic: “Why did your birth mother refuse to meet you? Your natural mother lost a great deal when she surrendered you to adoption.” Fabulous insight for any adoptee about to contact or having been refused contact by their birthmother. It won’t make the pain go away, but hopefully can shed a bit of understanding.
Pudding, the dead kitten, is still on the front porch, frozen, in a box. I don’t know what we are going to do with him. I don’t think we can bury him as the ground is already frozen.
Rye just walked though the door with another kitten!! The man is out of control. This guy is all black, but still as a faint tiger stripe somehow. Feels more like Puddie, but still tense and unsure. Puddie was soooo relaxed. Bout the same sleek, long kitten feel. Huge golden eyes. Aparently, this one has been man-handled by kids every day of his life. But he was not fond of…
Soon she began seeking out more specific information on her son and started looking into MySpace, an Internet community and message board. After fishing around, she found him and made his virtual acquaintance.
A proposed federal bill to provide grants for pregnant & parenting students, prospective parents anticipating a birth or adoption, and students who are placing or have placed a child for adoption.
Adoption made me welcome in constant sorrow. Once welcomed, there is no turning it away like some unwanted guest who stays too long. I had wanted to live my life, but instead I gave it away and the loss of my son cut though my life like a bright red marker carving a path for me to follow.
My Cat Got Hit by a Car. PuddingHead got taken on the road this afternoon. We lost him. It was snowy today..and I guess with him being all white.
Adoption as a Solution to Crisis Pregnancy The following is a collection of post recounting my experience as a teenage mother and how I found myself in the situation where I placed my infant son for adoption. It is wholly based on my current memories and my writings of that time of my pregnancy and relinquishment, and while I might be off on some things due to memory lapse, it…
Other opinions, stories from the other side of Adoption: Adoption Issues Cover a Wide Variety of Bloggers People conceived from sperm donors, surrogate children, husbands and wives of adoptees, reunited siblings all blog too. Adoption does not just effect parents and child , but can alter the dynamics of two extensive families. Every one’s feelings and perspectives of adoption should be considered. ~ as always, if you’re not on the list and…
Yes, I strongly recommend reading these blogs by various Adoptive Parents. On the “otherside of the triad”, on the other end of the adoption spectrum, but not adversaries, not enemies, but friends and comrades who also understand the complexity and empathy required to understand the truth about adoption. These Adoptive Parents are Roll Models: ~ as always, if you’re not on the list and you wish to be ( or…
Want to Learn About Adoption? Every voice of every adoptee blog here is speaking for the thousands of adoptees who are still children and not have found their voices, yet. Yes, every adoption experience is individual and different, but the range of human emotion knows no bounds. Read, learn. These most gifted of writers open up their hearts and souls so that you might understand. Listen to the Adoptees Read the Adoptee…
More Voices and Stories from Birthmothers However outdated, and even, I know, with some of these voices, these beacons of truth, completed or on hold or just sitting silent for a spell; this list of blogs from mothers, whatever you wish to call us: Birthmothers, firstmothers, biomoms, or CWBMs …is worth a good read. Understand the Truth about Adoption Relinquishment? We’ll tell you our truth as we lived as we continue to…