• A Must Read List for Adoption Truths

    • In many states across the USA including New York, Adoptee Rights bills are introduced to state legislators year after year. Due to lack of public support and misinformation based outdated beliefs about the adoption process, year after year, this bills fail to become laws.

    • I am a product of this experiment. I was born on December 24th, 1988 and I was soon transferred from one mother to another because my first mother, known throughout my life as my birth mother, wasn’t married to my birth father. She was 16 years old and still in high school.

    • I was 14 when I learned I was pregnant and my life changed forever. Once I’d gotten that fateful news, I tried to imagine what it would be like to have a baby; I wondered if I’d be able to finish school, would I be able to give my baby the life she deserved?

    • So How Do We Fix Adoption in the USA? Domestic Voluntary Infant Adoption is what we are discussing here. Women facing and unplanned pregnancy and “choose” adoption rather than parenting. If you aren’t aware of adoption facts, then you might not be aware of the need for reform.

    • There are some facts about adoption that, really, you cannot dispute unless you are just trying to purposely to stay ignorant regarding the facts of infant adoption in this country. Adoption is, in its perfect form, suppose to be about finding homes for children that need them, not about finding children for parents that want them.

    • What Happens to the Numbers of Adoptable Infants in the USA if We Compare to Australia? IF the USA had similar adoption practices to Australia and supported mothers, in the US we would have only 539 Voluntary Domestic Infant relinquishments annually give or take.

    • The relinquishment and subsequent adoption of my son was actually picture perfect. I am a perfect example of exactly what adoption is when it works just as it is suppose to.The adoption of my son was perfect, I did everything the “right” way and still; the adoption of my son caused unnecessary pain and was wrong. This is way I speak out against adoption today.

    • Adoption was almost more like a crack that happened in my soul. A crack that that I thought and was encouraged to believe that would be temporary or always below the surface. Over time, the rest of life worked it’s way in, like water in cement and caused the very foundation of myself to crumble.

    • When I relinquished Max, it was suppose to be something that affected ME. Like so many things in adoption, the professionals were wrong. The “gift of adoption” just keep on giving and giving.. the pain has a huge ripple effect that touches every aspect of a woman’s lives including ALL our children.

    • Secondary adoptee rejection is a very real reality in adoption reunions. We all have a different skill set and experiences to handle a reunion.There are many mothers who were simply told to “never speak of this again” and that has proven to be a real unhealthy bit of advice.

    • The simple fact is that it is less than 1% of all relinquishing mothers desire to never set eyes on their children again. So because these 1% mothers another 6 to 8 million people and their children and their children’s children get denied medical histories, get denied their identity, get denied their truth..

    • Most adoption agencies will offer free “birthmother” counseling as part of their adoption services. A true counselor is supposed to advocate for their client, not the organization for which they work. Often adoption counseling is “in agency” and therefore, not really nonpartisan. There is no guarantee that the “counselor” is neutral and actually has the expectant mothers’ best interests at heart.

    • I figured that I would write a post that makes it easier for women to become birthmothers. Hence, here’s a handy guide on how to become more appealing to adoption agencies and ways to ensure that you will place your baby.


Contact Claud at Musings of the Lame

Hi there,

There is no corporate Musings of the Lame. Just me, Claud, thank you, and my lame musings.

Email Contact

Claudia Corrigan D'ArcySo if you want to send me a note about whatever, feel free. I like to hear from other moms and adoptees, whomever is reading. Do you like my babble? Can you relate? Do you find the resources helpful? What would you like to see more of? It’s nice to know.

Email is always open: FixAdoption@gmail.com

Or you can use the handy dandy form thingy here;

I really TRY to answer everyone, but I am not as organized as I pretend to be. If you don’t hear back from me within the week, please feel free to poke me again. I probably just got distracted by some kittens on Facebook or something. Really, you are not bugging me, you are doing me a favor.

Please consider joining the Adoption Army to help promote Adoption Truths or if you like my work here, I do accept donations.

Advertise at Musings of the Lame

I don’t have paid ads on this blog. It just happened that way. Most adoption advertising is not ethical. If you have something you think I would like, you can try me.  I will accept things to review; books whatever, but you WILL get an honest post from me. And if you try to hit me up with some lame link farm deal, well.. I know my SEO so don’t bother. I will mock you. Really, I believe in free linking BUT let’s keep it relevant, shall we? My readers come here for adoption information  so if what you need is not relevant, please don’t waste my time. However, $$ is always good!

Sponsor My Rabble Rousing

I would go many more places and do many more things, but I have to work and all that jazz. I will be glad to accept sponsors for anything that helps adoption and gets the truth out there. Right now, an airline ticket is on my radar for Ohio in April. Sponsorship gets one a guaranteed . well, just about whatever you want. Seriously. For the cause,I will pimp myself out. I know.. what a whore.

However, I should note, I have a most excellent community behind me. I call them my Army. The Adoption Community is well connected, knows how to shares, always has an opinion and owns a huge amount of internet real estate. We do have a vast reach and it would behoove a smart brand to hook up with us. Really. From a marketers view point, the fact that there has been no smart brands willing to sponsor our initiatives is insane.

Guests Posts

I am very happy to write for other place, however; so if you have an idea for a guest blog post or whatever; just let me know. Really, I am THAT easy! Send me an email, tell me what you are looking for and chances are I will forgo much needed sleep to write what you want.

Share Your Adoption Story

On the same note, I have told much of my story already, but I know so many of you have a voice and a story to tell too. Maybe you don’t have a blog or don’t feel that you want that exposure, but still have something to say?

Please, feel free to send me your stories and I will post them here. I can give you credit or keep you unknown; whatever works for you.

If don’t feel that you can write, then how about an interview?  I will write your story for you if needed.. whatever I can to help you tell your story and share your adoption truth.

I really do not bite. I swear.


If so inclined, you can stalk me all over the internet. It’s easier to just google some version of my name, but hey…try FauxClaud.. It’s been my name online forever.


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