• A Must Read List for Adoption Truths

    • In many states across the USA including New York, Adoptee Rights bills are introduced to state legislators year after year. Due to lack of public support and misinformation based outdated beliefs about the adoption process, year after year, this bills fail to become laws.

    • I am a product of this experiment. I was born on December 24th, 1988 and I was soon transferred from one mother to another because my first mother, known throughout my life as my birth mother, wasn’t married to my birth father. She was 16 years old and still in high school.

    • I was 14 when I learned I was pregnant and my life changed forever. Once I’d gotten that fateful news, I tried to imagine what it would be like to have a baby; I wondered if I’d be able to finish school, would I be able to give my baby the life she deserved?

    • So How Do We Fix Adoption in the USA? Domestic Voluntary Infant Adoption is what we are discussing here. Women facing and unplanned pregnancy and “choose” adoption rather than parenting. If you aren’t aware of adoption facts, then you might not be aware of the need for reform.

    • There are some facts about adoption that, really, you cannot dispute unless you are just trying to purposely to stay ignorant regarding the facts of infant adoption in this country. Adoption is, in its perfect form, suppose to be about finding homes for children that need them, not about finding children for parents that want them.

    • What Happens to the Numbers of Adoptable Infants in the USA if We Compare to Australia? IF the USA had similar adoption practices to Australia and supported mothers, in the US we would have only 539 Voluntary Domestic Infant relinquishments annually give or take.

    • The relinquishment and subsequent adoption of my son was actually picture perfect. I am a perfect example of exactly what adoption is when it works just as it is suppose to.The adoption of my son was perfect, I did everything the “right” way and still; the adoption of my son caused unnecessary pain and was wrong. This is way I speak out against adoption today.

    • Adoption was almost more like a crack that happened in my soul. A crack that that I thought and was encouraged to believe that would be temporary or always below the surface. Over time, the rest of life worked it’s way in, like water in cement and caused the very foundation of myself to crumble.

    • When I relinquished Max, it was suppose to be something that affected ME. Like so many things in adoption, the professionals were wrong. The “gift of adoption” just keep on giving and giving.. the pain has a huge ripple effect that touches every aspect of a woman’s lives including ALL our children.

    • Secondary adoptee rejection is a very real reality in adoption reunions. We all have a different skill set and experiences to handle a reunion.There are many mothers who were simply told to “never speak of this again” and that has proven to be a real unhealthy bit of advice.

    • The simple fact is that it is less than 1% of all relinquishing mothers desire to never set eyes on their children again. So because these 1% mothers another 6 to 8 million people and their children and their children’s children get denied medical histories, get denied their identity, get denied their truth..

    • Most adoption agencies will offer free “birthmother” counseling as part of their adoption services. A true counselor is supposed to advocate for their client, not the organization for which they work. Often adoption counseling is “in agency” and therefore, not really nonpartisan. There is no guarantee that the “counselor” is neutral and actually has the expectant mothers’ best interests at heart.

    • I figured that I would write a post that makes it easier for women to become birthmothers. Hence, here’s a handy guide on how to become more appealing to adoption agencies and ways to ensure that you will place your baby.

Collecting the Adoptees and Families Searching Images on Facebook

Using Listly to Keep Up in Real Time

This is one of those times when I am asking for your help on a project.

adoptee searches 1It  was barely two weeks ago when Facebook started exploding with the Adoptee Searching Picture memes. Though I know we all tried to keep up and share like crazy cakes, it’s proving to be a difficult task!  I was trying to  share all the images of Adoptees begging for help finding their families, but I  quickly had the longest blog post  on the east coast.

There is a collection of most on Facebook’s You Know you are an Adoptee When,  but with FB’s picture posting for pages, they have to be uploaded, so the connection to the original source is lost.   Elaine has also done a spectacular job of getting them all over to Pinterest’s Adoptees and Families Searching, but  the problem is that the board relies on Elaine having to collect and pin there as well. I can see that this is going to be too much of a job for any one person to handle. Yet, they do need to be curated in one place and then able to be spread and shared.

And then, I remembered Listly!

The Benefits of Listly for the Adoptees Searching in Adoptionland

With Listly ANYONE can add their information! And even better, we All can take the live Listly list and embed it on our blogs and websites. Most importantly when a new picture is added, ALL the embed lists also get the new information. All in real time. ( yes, Listly should be paying me for talking about them so much, but they don’t! lol)

So, I am asking EVERYONE to PLEASE, when they come across an adoptee image to post it on the Adoptees and Families Searching List. To make it work best for those searching for families, we should do the following. I’ll make it step by step so it’s easy to follow!

How to Add  to the Adoptees and Families Searching Lists:

When you come across a new Adoptee Searching Image on Facebook or even a search page;

1) Go to: http://list.ly/list/38q-adoptees-families-searching and see if the image is already there. If it’s not, please add it.

Now this part is IMPORTANT; Link back to the ORIGINAL SOURCE of the image. So, if you see that FB is saying it’s MY photos, then I am NOT the source.  ”You Know You Are an Adoptee When” is NOT the original source.

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To be the most effective for the people searching, try to find THEIR page.  Then open the picture up ( if it’s just a profile image) and grab that URL OR find the Searching Page and use that URL.

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Image URLS are long and usually look like this: http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10151706588114502

If you are unsure if it works, copy the URL and open another window to test it.

2) Sign into Listly with whatever you like. I use FB because it’s the easiest.

3) Click on “ADD TO LIST”

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4) Choose “ITEM WITH LINK”

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5) Drop the URL of the Original Image source, page, profile picture.

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Once you put in the URL, Listly will pull the information and the image form the page. If you see the picture you are wanting to add, then you did it correctly!  But you will need to redo the information most of the time. This will help the image be FOUND by the people needing it. I will refrain from going off on an SEO tangent, but it’s about making Google search happy and getting the images to the right people!

6) In the TITLE:  Male/ Female  Adoptee/Brother  born 1-1-2001  City State

7) In the  “ITEM NOTE” Description: This will be a bit trickier based on what they have posted, but do the best you can.  The thing to remember is that while pictures are  more SHARABLE, the information on a picture is NOT SEARCHABLE, so having copy with the information is important!

  • CONTACT Info:
  • DOB: Spell out month, use full year
  • CITY, STATE:
  • In Search of:
  • FB profile or page:
  • Any other info or message

8) In the TAGS, you want to repeat the DOB in both formats, the city state, female/ male adoptee searching, add the state and the word adoptee the hospital if there

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9) After that, click OK and you are good to go!

Share the Adoptee and Families Searching List!

Got a blog or a website? It’s SUPER easy to add share the list now. You can also SHARE the WHOLE list from Listly by clicking the sharing buttons, or Embed the whole list! Don’t forget to follow the list too.

As with anything in social media, the more likes, comments, follows or shares keeps it up in front and  allows more people to see it.

1) Click the Embed link on the list

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2) Chose your options: for most sites ( blogger, WordPress, HTML, etc) you can just use the JavaScript. I personally prefer the gallery view since we are highlighting images.

3) And then copy the code in the box.

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4) Then once on your blog or site, open up a new page or post

5) Go to the HTML/ Code section and just paste the code in.

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6) Publish!

And then you have this:

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Claudia Corrigan DArcy

About Claudia Corrigan DArcy

Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. Blogging since 2005, her website Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding. She is also an activist and avid supporter of Adoptee Rights and fights for nationwide birth certificate access for all adoptees with the Adoptee Rights Coalition. Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine, Adopt-a-tude.com, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.
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One Response to Collecting the Adoptees and Families Searching Images on Facebook

  1. Jess says:

    Great idea! I’m going to share the link on my blog now.Thanks Claudia!

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