Ok.. yes, I know. I have been HORRIBLE. I know. I feel the guilt. I really do. And I have my reasons, but it is not time for me to have my whine/excuse fest right now. So let’s just not go there right now. Let’s keep it as : I have been really, really thinking about writing all these things..and DOING all sorts of things, but really I have been incapable. I am working on it. I just happened to get seriously jump started today.
Why today?
Because I just happened to have to pop over to my appropiatly named LAME blog as I needed a good example to show a non blogger co-worker how you can trace people on blogs back to their websites. And in this I used dear Gershom as an example..going from my post.. and her comments, to her profile and then to her blog and then WHAM! I see this and practically scream with JOY in my office!
Now what really really got me was that somehow in the midst of my excitment, I read that Evelyn might be returned soon…which really, I almost started crying right then.
Of course the reality of it all is that:
a) Evil ” A Child’s Waiting” adoption agency…err (cough) baby kidnappers and family separates.. is NOT closed YET. They have serious allegations against them (no doh!) and the state of Ohio WANTS to close them down. Go Ohio.
b) Even with the fact that the agency is bad enough to warrent a serious investigation and makes judges wonder why and how this could be, Stephaine’s case has been decided AGAINST her at this time. And while they still plan to appeal AGAIN, this time in probate court (which is NOT open to the public), Evelyn is still with the people who refuse to return her to her rightful family. There is nothing legal at this time that finds the surrender of Evelyn to be under duress.
Stop choking. You might hurt yourself.
Yes, we, the sane and sensable ones, KNOW that of COURSE there was HUGE duress. We understand how being sexual abused and threatened for years by a much older man can be considered truama inducing. We can get it that death threats and adoption really should not go hand and hand. We know that there is NO PLACE for agencies to TROLL FOR BABIES in PUBLIC supported HIGH SCHOOLS. And that, really, a high school guidence counselor should not contact adoption agencies, etc. And that being told to RUN AWAY from HOME might be cause for alarm.
We know that this whole case is a complete travisty of justice. And we know that, now nearing two years of age, that the chances of poor Evelyn ever being returned to her family are slim to hopeless. That Stephanie is now in this sad club of mothers who lost children to adioption, most likely with no parole. We know that the people who hold Eveyln hostage must be heartless and overly entitlted. And we wonder how they will ever be able to look Evelyn in the eye and tell her their role in this story. Do they have any clue how incredible angry she will be?
So, in truth, despite my immediate joy..not much has really changed with this news. I actually went and called Rick Armon, the ONLY reporter who has actually BOTHERED to cover this story just to find out what was up. Nice man that Rick.
But maybe this one small break in the wall of injustice, maybe it will be enough to at least watch the grossness of A Child’s Waiting fall, maybe there will be some joy in that.
But until Evelyn is home again, this story still has a very sad ending.
Glad you caught it. I just thought I’d post that the agency’s workers are talking about it at http://www.adoptionagencyreview.com ( barf! ) and defending themselves w/ their last dying breath.
Its really interesting on their 990 form ( thats public ) they didn’t declare NEARLY as much as my math shows that over 500 adoptions should be bringing in. Maybe someone can correct me but MY LORD someone is fibbing on that form. I’ve got a little more research to do on this before I post more, but me thinks they’re going to lose the appeal.
I can’t help but conjuring up the image of the citizens of West Berlin hammering on the Berlin wall with pieces of cement chipped with the bare, bleeding hands of those before them. The wall came down. The wall will come down.
Happy G’Ma
back when I was writing letters last year to senators, maybe Kucinich actually read some of it. In it I spoke of Stephanie Bennett. Maybe??? I can hope.
GO STEPHANIE AND EVELYN and BENNETT FAMILY!!!!
and don’t feel guilty… We are all doing the best we can, and sometimes we have to have our breaks, and sometimes we can’t do anything about things. That is life, and We Are All Doing The Best That We Can.
((hugs!!!))
so… I’m getting a feeling? Just by reading your blog, and others blogs… r u planning what I think you’re planning? Are you a new blogger for a particular place that is currently hiring? That would be SOOOO awesome if you are!!!!!!!!!!! But if I’m wrong, just smack me upside the head.
But if you are, congrats and that is soooooo freakin awesome!!!!!!