• A Must Read List for Adoption Truths

    • In many states across the USA including New York, Adoptee Rights bills are introduced to state legislators year after year. Due to lack of public support and misinformation based outdated beliefs about the adoption process, year after year, this bills fail to become laws.

    • I am a product of this experiment. I was born on December 24th, 1988 and I was soon transferred from one mother to another because my first mother, known throughout my life as my birth mother, wasn’t married to my birth father. She was 16 years old and still in high school.

    • I was 14 when I learned I was pregnant and my life changed forever. Once I’d gotten that fateful news, I tried to imagine what it would be like to have a baby; I wondered if I’d be able to finish school, would I be able to give my baby the life she deserved?

    • So How Do We Fix Adoption in the USA? Domestic Voluntary Infant Adoption is what we are discussing here. Women facing and unplanned pregnancy and “choose” adoption rather than parenting. If you aren’t aware of adoption facts, then you might not be aware of the need for reform.

    • There are some facts about adoption that, really, you cannot dispute unless you are just trying to purposely to stay ignorant regarding the facts of infant adoption in this country. Adoption is, in its perfect form, suppose to be about finding homes for children that need them, not about finding children for parents that want them.

    • What Happens to the Numbers of Adoptable Infants in the USA if We Compare to Australia? IF the USA had similar adoption practices to Australia and supported mothers, in the US we would have only 539 Voluntary Domestic Infant relinquishments annually give or take.

    • The relinquishment and subsequent adoption of my son was actually picture perfect. I am a perfect example of exactly what adoption is when it works just as it is suppose to.The adoption of my son was perfect, I did everything the “right” way and still; the adoption of my son caused unnecessary pain and was wrong. This is way I speak out against adoption today.

    • Adoption was almost more like a crack that happened in my soul. A crack that that I thought and was encouraged to believe that would be temporary or always below the surface. Over time, the rest of life worked it’s way in, like water in cement and caused the very foundation of myself to crumble.

    • When I relinquished Max, it was suppose to be something that affected ME. Like so many things in adoption, the professionals were wrong. The “gift of adoption” just keep on giving and giving.. the pain has a huge ripple effect that touches every aspect of a woman’s lives including ALL our children.

    • Secondary adoptee rejection is a very real reality in adoption reunions. We all have a different skill set and experiences to handle a reunion.There are many mothers who were simply told to “never speak of this again” and that has proven to be a real unhealthy bit of advice.

    • The simple fact is that it is less than 1% of all relinquishing mothers desire to never set eyes on their children again. So because these 1% mothers another 6 to 8 million people and their children and their children’s children get denied medical histories, get denied their identity, get denied their truth..

    • Most adoption agencies will offer free “birthmother” counseling as part of their adoption services. A true counselor is supposed to advocate for their client, not the organization for which they work. Often adoption counseling is “in agency” and therefore, not really nonpartisan. There is no guarantee that the “counselor” is neutral and actually has the expectant mothers’ best interests at heart.

    • I figured that I would write a post that makes it easier for women to become birthmothers. Hence, here’s a handy guide on how to become more appealing to adoption agencies and ways to ensure that you will place your baby.

New Jersey is ONE Signature Away from Equality for Adoptees!

All We Need is for Governor Chris Christie to Sign the Bill AS PROMISED

Christie Signs NJ Adoptee Rights SHIRT!On February 27, 2014, the New Jersey House AND Senate BOTH passed the Adoptees Birthright Bill  AGAIN.  Last time this happen in 2011,  Gov. Christie veto the Adoptee Rights bill in 2011. NJCARE has been fighting to get this bill passed for over 30 years!

Gov. Christie has SAID that IF the bill was to come across his desk again, he would sign it. It is time to put the pressure on. He signed the shirt, now sign the bill!!

Put the Pressure on Gov. Chris Christie

PLEASE WRITE to Governor Christie and ASK HIM TO SIGN the Adoptees’ Birthright Bill this time as he promised. See these folks below? They have been fighting for too long!!! Let’s not make all their YEARS of work be in vain again. Five minutes of your time will make it all worth it.

nj cares adoptee rights activists

COPY and PASTE to a WORD Document. Please MAIL YOUR LETTER ASAP! NJCARE asks that we FLOOD Governor Christie’s Office with as many letters as we can! THANK YOU!!!!

Your Name
Your Address
Your City, State, Zip


Governor Chris Christie
Office of the Governor
P.O. Box 001
The State House
Trenton, NJ 08625

Re: Adoptees’ Birthright Bill (S873/A1259)

Dear Governor Christie,

I’m writing to you to ask you to sign the Adoptees’ Birthright Bill. Adoptees in the state have been fighting for over 30 years, to have their civil right restored. Every citizen in our country deserves to know their name, their heritage, and to have a complete medical history.

The bill is fair to both adoptees and birth parents. The bill protects birth parents’ privacy, since it gives birth parents the option to put a note in their child’s file, saying that they don’t want to be contacted.

I hope that you will do the right thing and sign the Adoptees’ Birthright Bill without delay.


Your Name

Email Governor Christie Regarding Signing the NJ Adoptees’ Birthright Bill

If you would prefer to send your letter via Email, here is the Contact Information:


Select the Topic: “Children and Families” and click CONTINUE.

Select Sub-Topic: “Adoption and Foster Care”

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Claudia Corrigan DArcy

About Claudia Corrigan DArcy

Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. Blogging since 2005, her website Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding. She is also an activist and avid supporter of Adoptee Rights and fights for nationwide birth certificate access for all adoptees with the Adoptee Rights Coalition. Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine, Adopt-a-tude.com, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.
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2 Responses to New Jersey is ONE Signature Away from Equality for Adoptees!

  1. Robin says:

    Do you have to reside in New Jersey for a letter to be effective?

    • adminadmin says:

      No. It will HAVE more punch from NJ residents, but it is still good for him know that the whole country is watching.. remember he still might seek the nomination in 2016 for Pres. :) You can tell him that you have family and friends in Jersey.

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