• A Must Read List for Adoption Truths

    • In many states across the USA including New York, Adoptee Rights bills are introduced to state legislators year after year. Due to lack of public support and misinformation based outdated beliefs about the adoption process, year after year, this bills fail to become laws.

    • I am a product of this experiment. I was born on December 24th, 1988 and I was soon transferred from one mother to another because my first mother, known throughout my life as my birth mother, wasn’t married to my birth father. She was 16 years old and still in high school.

    • I was 14 when I learned I was pregnant and my life changed forever. Once I’d gotten that fateful news, I tried to imagine what it would be like to have a baby; I wondered if I’d be able to finish school, would I be able to give my baby the life she deserved?

    • So How Do We Fix Adoption in the USA? Domestic Voluntary Infant Adoption is what we are discussing here. Women facing and unplanned pregnancy and “choose” adoption rather than parenting. If you aren’t aware of adoption facts, then you might not be aware of the need for reform.

    • There are some facts about adoption that, really, you cannot dispute unless you are just trying to purposely to stay ignorant regarding the facts of infant adoption in this country. Adoption is, in its perfect form, suppose to be about finding homes for children that need them, not about finding children for parents that want them.

    • What Happens to the Numbers of Adoptable Infants in the USA if We Compare to Australia? IF the USA had similar adoption practices to Australia and supported mothers, in the US we would have only 539 Voluntary Domestic Infant relinquishments annually give or take.

    • The relinquishment and subsequent adoption of my son was actually picture perfect. I am a perfect example of exactly what adoption is when it works just as it is suppose to.The adoption of my son was perfect, I did everything the “right” way and still; the adoption of my son caused unnecessary pain and was wrong. This is way I speak out against adoption today.

    • Adoption was almost more like a crack that happened in my soul. A crack that that I thought and was encouraged to believe that would be temporary or always below the surface. Over time, the rest of life worked it’s way in, like water in cement and caused the very foundation of myself to crumble.

    • When I relinquished Max, it was suppose to be something that affected ME. Like so many things in adoption, the professionals were wrong. The “gift of adoption” just keep on giving and giving.. the pain has a huge ripple effect that touches every aspect of a woman’s lives including ALL our children.

    • Secondary adoptee rejection is a very real reality in adoption reunions. We all have a different skill set and experiences to handle a reunion.There are many mothers who were simply told to “never speak of this again” and that has proven to be a real unhealthy bit of advice.

    • The simple fact is that it is less than 1% of all relinquishing mothers desire to never set eyes on their children again. So because these 1% mothers another 6 to 8 million people and their children and their children’s children get denied medical histories, get denied their identity, get denied their truth..

    • Most adoption agencies will offer free “birthmother” counseling as part of their adoption services. A true counselor is supposed to advocate for their client, not the organization for which they work. Often adoption counseling is “in agency” and therefore, not really nonpartisan. There is no guarantee that the “counselor” is neutral and actually has the expectant mothers’ best interests at heart.

    • I figured that I would write a post that makes it easier for women to become birthmothers. Hence, here’s a handy guide on how to become more appealing to adoption agencies and ways to ensure that you will place your baby.

Craigslist Adoption Truth Project Update!

Making Waves, Making Noise

If you missed the newsletter with the coded version, please go to this link.
Make sure you sign up for the Adoption Army herefor updates too!There have been excellent suggestions for adding a list of resources so moms at risk can find help. More are coming in. If you know of any please send them along. The next round of ads will incorporate that.

Turning the USA Pink with Adoption Truth

 

The image was from 12-26-12.  The Google Map is here for the most updated version. It is public, so if you feel handy and complete a state, feel free to pink it out.
I added a LISTly for the links. Please just add your Craigslist ad to Listly. No need for anything fancy;  just the link and the area covered. It will make it easier to see which are where, and if any get pulled. We have over 100 listings now in over half of the USA states. 

Getting Attention for the Cause

I’ll have been invited to be interviewed by Lisa Marie Macci on the Justice Hour this Saturday 11/24/12 at 3pm EST.

It’s an hour long radio show, so I hope that I will have the chance to speak abut many adoption issues! There is a call-in number for the show: 1-888-565-1470.

You can hear it at this link for WWNN 1470 AM  and wwnnradio.com

We will be talking about the Craigslist Adoption Truth Project on HuffPo Live here on Dec 10th 2012 at 8:15 EST.

States Prohibiting Adoption Advertisements

This site shows that these 22 states prohibit individuals advertising for adoption:

  • Alabama
  • California
  • Delaware
  • Florida
  • Georgia
  • Idaho
  • Indiana
  • Kansas
  • Kentucky
  • Louisiana
  • Maine
  • Massachusetts
  • Mississippi
  • Montana
  • Nebraska
  • Nevada
  • New Hampshire
  • North Dakota
  • Ohio
  • Texas
  • Utah
  • Virginia

So if you SEE ads form adoptive parents in these states, FLAG them.  Huge thanks to Laurie G for putting this information together!

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Musings of the Lame was started in 2005 primarily as a simple blog recording the feelings of a birthmother as she struggled to understand how the act of relinquishing her first newborn so to adoption in 1987 continued to be a major force in her life. Built from the knowledge gained in the adoption community, it records the search for her son and the adoption reunion as it happened. Since then, it has grown as an adoption forum encompassing the complexity of the adoption industry, the fight to free her sons adoption records and the need for Adoptee Rights, and a growing community of other birthmothers, adoptive parents and adopted persons who are able to see that so much what we want to believe about adoption is wrong.
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3 Responses to Craigslist Adoption Truth Project Update!

  1. Anonymous says:

    What was the facebook link posted above? It seems the page has been disabled or deleted.

  2. Pingback: Day 8 of Adoption Activism; NAAM2013: Today Show and Craigslist | Musings of the Lame

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