2009

My Adopt-a-tude: More on Find My Family

I was asked to write Adopt-a-tude’s second post in a series about the ABC reality show Find My Family. I most happily agreed. So, yes.. another post on how I feel about ABC’s Find My Family, just in case I have not been clear about it!


Sara Lee and the Evil Poundcake

Did you ever have a craving for 15 years? It’s an awful thing. It’s kind of odd because in allot of ways, I don’t have allot of people from my past in my life. Like when people complain about their families, I really can’t relate anymore. My parents are both gone; my mother to cancer, my father to some strange life that has not included me for the last 20…


Primal Wound Book Tour: Birthmother Musings

I was open to the idea of this Prima Wound book tour since I knew it had been some time since I had read my copy this adoption classic. Plus, the last time I had read it I was in the midst of a massive adoption book read in; so much of it got jumbled with tons of other facts and figures. I tend to read like that and assimilate…


JP Morgan Chase Bank is a Bad Pimp Daddy!

JP Morgan Chase Bank P.O. Box 15298 Wilmington, DE 19859-5298 Re: account # XXXXXXXXXXX Dear Chase Bank, He Answered the Phone I want to thank you for actually sending my full account history as my husband requested during one of your recent “gonna call the D’Arcy’s house at least 12 times today” days. I took the liberty of compiling the information contained in the 74 pages since it was hard…


A Birthmother’s Perspective of ABC’s Find My Family

I made a point to watch ABC’s Find My Family tonight I normally avoid adoption related shows because I don’t do well with them in general. I yell at the TV and get all worked up. I know it makes Rye nervous. Birthmothers and Adoption TV=Not Fun As a birthmother, I find it is like walking through a land mine; carefully place the my foot down on the next step,…


In the Dollhouse; A Message from my Mother

The Christmas before I turned twelve, my parents got me a dollhouse. Not just any dollhouse but they had it custom made by a local man for me. We had been looking for just the right house for quite a while. I don’t know how I got into it, but my mom and I went to quite a few places looking for a good dollhouse.. You know the serious collector…


Adoption, Relinquishment, Informed Consent, Abortion, 911, and Insurance: How to Fix Adoption??

I don’t know why, but the responses to my last post about my dreading with November was overwhelming to me. It wasn’t that people responded with kindness; I actually expect the innate goodness and compassion of most. It wasn’t that my feelings obviously resonate to what other moms feel during the birthday months of our relinquished children either. It was more like I was so struck at how very similar…


November: A BirthMothers Season of Loss

Here it comes. I don’t know why I am surprised. It’s November. It’s National Adoption Awareness Month. Max’s Birthday is on Saturday. My due date for him was tomorrow November 12th. Into the Season of Max I roll.. Gotcha Gotcha Gotcha! I feel the big cranky coming on. Tuesday night when I found myself almost in tears over a pretty much a nothing conversation with Rye, I immediately thought “PMS?”,…


My Most Treasured Photo of Adoption

I’m late to the Adoption Carnival Party today, but I’m still going to play: This month’s Grown in my Heart Adoption Carnival is: Carnival III: Photos of Adoption. What is your most treasured adoption photo (or two)? Block out faces if you have to, find a scanner, or simply tell us about it if you can’t post it. We do understand that. For me, my most tresured Adoption Photos is…


Honoring the Loss of My Friend, Moises

There are times when it seems that all things in the universe come together in the most magical ways. I can count those moments like that that I have had the joy of experiencing on my two hands; they are so fleeting and rare, yet impossible to miss. This Tuesday night, in the void of great loss and sorrow; I had the honor of taking part in one of these…


Where My Wild Things Are

I knew I would have to write about Where the Wild Things Are. How could I not? From the earliest hummings of a this Spike Jonze’s Where the Wild Thing Are movie coming to fruition, every ounce of my soul has rejected the reality that I now face. I haven’t wanted to hear about this movie. I haven’t wanted to think about it. I haven’t wanted to face it. I…


A Best Buy Customer Service Story

Tweeting and Freaking Out about Best Buy After almost 6 years of hard work, my HP laptop was old, outdated and becoming increasingly more useless, so after the holidays, with my husband’s prodding, we bit the bullet and took advantage of the post holiday sales and purchased a new CPU for myself. We stayed with HP as they have been “our brand” for years and we have that loyalty thing…


Hair Flashback or Never Safe from Adoption

Recently, I added some Really Bright Red Highlights to my Hair Now if you have ever been a phony red head like me, then you might be able to relate to what I am about to say, if not, then you’ll have to take my word on it: Being a Red Head is like having Anorexia of the Hair. Now, I don’t mean that in a way to mock people…


Fitting Adoption into my Weekend

It’s going to be a challenge this weekend, but I have to do it. I just can’t believe these “days off” are so jam packed… We have a wedding today/tonight, which I had thought was on Sunday! Thankfully, it worked out and the kids went to Grandma’s, but I think we will have to miss the actual wedding part and only hit the reception. Unfortunately, Rye MUST answer phones all…