2007

Resolutions for 2008

There is this fine line in adoptionland that I really try hard not to trip over. It’s something that, I think, frequently confuses dear Rye. He sees me doing all this stuff, this research, this writing, this time..and he wonders..Hey! Aren’t you EVER going to make any money off of this? Now, really..we know the answer, is NO. Which is fine. I mean, it would be great if I did..just…


Just the Max Facts!

I love the Holiday Season! OK, if Rye saw that I just typed this out he would be mocking me because going in to Christmas, I am a wreck. But now that it is over….whew.. gald it’s over! But what I do adore, is that it makes a certain son of mine crawl out of the woodwork! Yeah..got a call from the Max! Which was really funny as I had…


Adoption Terminology PC Time Warp

I received this question in my comments in this last post regarding my Adoption Today Article: “congrats on getting published, but i must ask: did the magazine insist, that you denigrate yourself by calling yourself an incubator for this article? somehow i thought that you, Claud, considered yourself to be Max’s mother, not just a walking uterus (i.e. “birth mother”) who produced him for his “true parents” 🙁 it is…


Giving Holiday Sphears: Jamie Lynn Pregnant at 16!

It’s kind of funny, considering that it is me, but I have been volunteering all over the place for Tristan’s and Scarlett’s school. The last week has been all about the PTA Holiday Gift Shoppe… Yup, running the holiday gift shoppe. Yup, the PTA. But, it’s been fun and I can do it one handed. And it’s good for all these kids, it’s good for the school, and people really…


HardCopy: Adoption Today Magazine

Right before I turned thirty, a job that I worked on in my rather small interior design firm had a job printed in Interiors and Sources. It was pretty cool, I have say, seeing my name in a real magazine. It helped with the trauma of turning thirty.. ugg.. But I had a new house, a decent “career” job, and I was expecting a sparkley engagement ring for the occasion..so…


Mystery Solved!

I got an Email message from a very lovely lady….I’ll call her LL..who is a prespective adoptive parent who..is DEMANDING ETHICS in adoption. She sees the issues before going in…her pre-adoptive resaech is INCLUDING ETHICAL CONCERNS! Which is amazing to me really…that enough evidence is out there that people even know to think of this.. and yes, they get it! Really, Emails like this.. they make my day! So yes,…


The BEST awareness colors list EVA!!!

Awareness Color Ribbons and Their Meanings It’s really too huge to post here! But it is worth checking out. I thought I was a big deal because I knew that rainbow jigsaws were for Autism Awareness. oh well.. Who knew such things: Red is Pro-life, Orange is for Feral cats and self injury, Yellow is suicide prevention and adoptive parents, Green is a pretty busy color! Tissue and organ donation or transplants,…



Tonight! on the Adoption Show!

THE ADOPTION SHOW Voices Ending the Myth Sunday December 9, 2007 9:00 PM EST OUSA STUDY MOTHERS’ VOICES: SURRENDER EXPERIENCES AND LONG-TERM EFFECTS BERNADETTE WRIGHT Bernadette Wright is a mother who lost her only child, a son who she named Sebastian, to a grey market baby broker in 1990, when she was 19. She has not seen or known anything about her son since he was taken from the hospital…


Meeting for Open Records

Tomorrow, I shall get up at the crack of dawn. I have my choice of buses to get on.. 6, 6:15 or 6:30, the latter being the last one I can get on and be in NYC on time. By 9:00 am, I shall be sitting in a meeting with other like minded ones…discussing the EBD Open Records paper that garnished so much media attention and trying to come up…


That Y chromosome

sniff… My second baby, Garin, .. who is 16 and taller than me.. lives for his band. They actually do NOT suck which is amazing. I can totally recall beING a girlfriend of a band member many times in my younger years and hating “band practice’ as they DID suck. Sitting through hours of torture, just waiting for the end, it sucked being a groupie. These kids do not torture…


What do you think?

I was watching Brad Pitt last night being interviewed by Larry King live in New Orleans. Only for a minute really, since it got really painful. I mean, Brad is real purty like, and I think he means well, but he doesn’t seem to do so great when someone has not written his lines for him. Or he was stoned..lol. Anyhoo, aside from him hanging out with Angelina and thier…


Message from Ethica regarding the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption

Message from Ethica   Dear Ethica Supporter: Ethica has submitted comments on the U.S. Citizen and Immigration Services (USCIS) new administrative procedures for the ratification of the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption. The USCIS comment period ends this Monday. We encourage adoption community members to contribute their thoughts on these procedures which can greatly influence the way adoptions are conducted. Ethica’s comments can be downloaded here: http://www.ethicanet.org/DHS_RegComments.pdf Your own comments…


Fun on CafeMom When Infertile People Want Another Woman’s Twins

I really do not care that you think that I am overstepping my boundries. I personally feel that people who are so desperae for a baby that they troll on message boards and try to exploit women in vunerable circumstances to be predatory and unethical. Pre birth contact is considered coersive.
Of course, you would like to adopt her twins. And while I am sure that it sucks for you to be infertile, my sympathy really ends there. Sometimes in life you do not get what you want. I do not have to think of people like you.. my job is to think about moms who CAN be good mothers, who need help facing a crisis prenancy and perhaps just someone to tell them the truth.


The National Council for Adoption:

The National Council for Adoption usually has something to say about any adoption issue. One would think they should just based on their name. After all “National Council” makes it sound as if an official governmental appointment was made. That they are the official US stance, made after long thought out meetings by a Council, on all things related to adoption. Alas, that is just a well thought out play on the name made to make one think that is what they are.