• A Must Read List for Adoption Truths

    • In many states across the USA including New York, Adoptee Rights bills are introduced to state legislators year after year. Due to lack of public support and misinformation based outdated beliefs about the adoption process, year after year, this bills fail to become laws.

    • I am a product of this experiment. I was born on December 24th, 1988 and I was soon transferred from one mother to another because my first mother, known throughout my life as my birth mother, wasn’t married to my birth father. She was 16 years old and still in high school.

    • I was 14 when I learned I was pregnant and my life changed forever. Once I’d gotten that fateful news, I tried to imagine what it would be like to have a baby; I wondered if I’d be able to finish school, would I be able to give my baby the life she deserved?

    • So How Do We Fix Adoption in the USA? Domestic Voluntary Infant Adoption is what we are discussing here. Women facing and unplanned pregnancy and “choose” adoption rather than parenting. If you aren’t aware of adoption facts, then you might not be aware of the need for reform.

    • There are some facts about adoption that, really, you cannot dispute unless you are just trying to purposely to stay ignorant regarding the facts of infant adoption in this country. Adoption is, in its perfect form, suppose to be about finding homes for children that need them, not about finding children for parents that want them.

    • What Happens to the Numbers of Adoptable Infants in the USA if We Compare to Australia? IF the USA had similar adoption practices to Australia and supported mothers, in the US we would have only 539 Voluntary Domestic Infant relinquishments annually give or take.

    • The relinquishment and subsequent adoption of my son was actually picture perfect. I am a perfect example of exactly what adoption is when it works just as it is suppose to.The adoption of my son was perfect, I did everything the “right” way and still; the adoption of my son caused unnecessary pain and was wrong. This is way I speak out against adoption today.

    • Adoption was almost more like a crack that happened in my soul. A crack that that I thought and was encouraged to believe that would be temporary or always below the surface. Over time, the rest of life worked it’s way in, like water in cement and caused the very foundation of myself to crumble.

    • When I relinquished Max, it was suppose to be something that affected ME. Like so many things in adoption, the professionals were wrong. The “gift of adoption” just keep on giving and giving.. the pain has a huge ripple effect that touches every aspect of a woman’s lives including ALL our children.

    • Secondary adoptee rejection is a very real reality in adoption reunions. We all have a different skill set and experiences to handle a reunion.There are many mothers who were simply told to “never speak of this again” and that has proven to be a real unhealthy bit of advice.

    • The simple fact is that it is less than 1% of all relinquishing mothers desire to never set eyes on their children again. So because these 1% mothers another 6 to 8 million people and their children and their children’s children get denied medical histories, get denied their identity, get denied their truth..

    • Most adoption agencies will offer free “birthmother” counseling as part of their adoption services. A true counselor is supposed to advocate for their client, not the organization for which they work. Often adoption counseling is “in agency” and therefore, not really nonpartisan. There is no guarantee that the “counselor” is neutral and actually has the expectant mothers’ best interests at heart.

    • I figured that I would write a post that makes it easier for women to become birthmothers. Hence, here’s a handy guide on how to become more appealing to adoption agencies and ways to ensure that you will place your baby.

Why We Fight For Adoptee Rights

Adoptee Rights CoalitionAs one week from today is the Adoptee Rights Demonstration in Chicago, Illinois I would like to propose a celebratory meme. Even if you can’t physically be there, you can help pepper the internet air waves with news and the reasons why you support Adoptee Rights!

Why I Support Open Access to Original Birth Certificates

I have three reasons why I believe that Adoptee Rights is very important and why I dedicate my time to doing so:

#1: Open Records Equal Truth

It is my strong belief that WHEN all adoptees in the US are given back their human right to their own birth records, they will search in much larger numbers. For one, it won’t be a nearly impossible task and some of the “forbidden” stigma that surround searches will dissipate.

When they search , now they will find their biological families much easier. When an adoptee finds their original families that relinquished them, then they will hear the truth of their relinquishment and the true circumstances following their birth. This truth, I believe, no found in larger numbers, will begin to really blow down the house of cards the adoption industry has built upon all the secrets and lies. It is at that point, when adult adoptees, birthparents AND adoptive parents, realize that the adoption industry has lied to all of them, we will see an increase of people demanding transparency and reality to the adoption industry.
And that, my friends, makes OBC access the root of all other adoption reforms.

#2: Ad

option Denies My Own Son His Civil Rights

While I still kick myself for NOT applying for , and receiving, Max’s original birth certificate before his adoption was finalized in 1987, that action would not have made the government treat him equally. Even if I had it in hand, we could not apply for another copy and therefore, my own son is not treated fairly due to his adoption. Massachusetts has a horrible updated law and his birth years are sandwiched out.
Since, it was my decisions that caused him to lose his civil rights, as a mother, it’s my job to right that wrong.

#3: I Care About My Friends

How many adoptees do I truly adore? How many to I love and really care about? How many are my friends? I cannot count, but this journey though adoption land has blessed me and I have met so many truly wonderful people and they too, like my son, deserve the right to be treated equally by our laws in this country.

The Adoption Lists: Why Do YOU Support Adoptee Rights?

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Claudia Corrigan DArcy

About Claudia Corrigan DArcy

Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. Blogging since 2005, her website Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding. She is also an activist and avid supporter of Adoptee Rights and fights for nationwide birth certificate access for all adoptees with the Adoptee Rights Coalition. Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine, Adopt-a-tude.com, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.
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5 Responses to Why We Fight For Adoptee Rights

  1. Pingback: Why I fight for adoptee rights

  2. I am the administrator of a new Facebook page, Adoptee Equal Rights Task Force Wisconsin. We are a group of citizen volunteers from the Triad Group, actively engaged with WI State Legislators in getting WI Stat 48.433 (OBC law) changed to an unrestricted access to the adoptee original, unaltered birth certificate.

    Any comments or suggestions, are welcome.

  3. Industry SEO Troll says:

    A quite an informative post which will beneficial for adopted persons, birth mothers and adoptive families.

    • adminadmin says:

      Thank you. However, I will NOT allow links here, even as comments, from an adoption industry representative to a website that profits form the separation of mothers and children. Your comment can stand, but your links are gone.

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