What do you think?

I was watching Brad Pitt last night being interviewed by Larry King live in New Orleans.

Only for a minute really, since it got really painful. I mean, Brad is real purty like, and I think he means well, but he doesn’t seem to do so great when someone has not written his lines for him. Or he was stoned..lol.

Anyhoo, aside from him hanging out with Angelina and thier nasty adoption habits, what he was talking about was this whole project that he has underway in New Orleans.

It’s really very Cristos like.. this whole “pink houses”..I mean I like the idea. I love that he is doing something and using 5 million of his own money to do that something…

ADOPT These Houses

He wants people to ADOPT these houses. And I get the ideal..and again, it’s great. I don;t mean to be picking on him or his project for his terminology, it’s just that:
1) He annunciated the word “adopt” differently. I swear..go Goggle it yourself!

On his ‘Make It Right’ project: (a housing redevelopment in the lower 9th Ward of New Orleans, Louisiana, USA):
BRAD PITT: OK. This is what we are calling the adopt-a-house campaign. It is part art installation, it is part act of social disobedience, but it is really meant to work as a fundraising component. And we were looking for something that was loud and would get a lot of attention, that was also hopeful. So what you see here is, as you see these blocks scattered across this section of the Lower Ninth, to represent the houses that were destroyed, the homes that were destroyed. And what we are hoping to do is, as a house gets adopted, this is going to be up for five, six weeks, five-and-a-half weeks, as a home gets adopted, we will right that house and we will put it back on its foundation. So hopefully this will be an art installation that will be constantly evolving. And by the end of this — by the end of this five-and-a-half weeks, we hope to have a symbolic neighbourhood put back together. And that is the goal


2) Because I am who I am, I do bristle often at the use of the word adoption, adopt, etc. So, yeah, I am listening to what can be a weird overuse and attention grabbing way of using this word.

but then….
It got me thinking this am. We just love to keep using this word Adoption. It’s like we forgot our thesourus. Adopt this, adopt that. We don’t sponsor anymore, not when you can ADOPT!

  • Adopt a house.. that’s a good thing for Brad and this project. Help rebuild!
  • Adopt a highway.. to clean it, make it look nice.
  • Adopt a mutt.. to love and cherish and pick up poop.
  • Adopt a family.. help them with what they do not have.
  • Adopt a technology…new tools, new ways of working.
  • Adopt a pound puppy, a cabbage patch kid, and like 5 other toys this Xmas.

It’s like EVERY way that we use this word too… it has the underlying connotation of “improvement”. It’s always a positive thing.

  • Improve the houses, rebuild.
  • Improve the highway by cleaning and planting flowers.
  • Inprove the puppy’s life with a home and care.
  • Improve the families life by assisting them in getting what they cannot.
  • Improve your job, your business, a system, your blogger habits by new tools.
  • Improve your kids life by getting this great realistic toys.

You see where I am going with this?

Adopt a child. Improve that child.

Now I know, really I do, that the ideal is to improve the life of the child. Give them more, provide for them what cannot be provided without the adoption…speaking idealistially of course!
But it does seem to then automatically assume then that the life pre adoption needed improvement. Which we know is not the true case for every case…where IS that “burning building” post!!
And then I think to words adoptees say…do not so many of them feel the pressure to be “better, improved”? You know whar I mean? Not being an adoptee, I’m not going to attempt to discuss their feelings, but how the words is used, I think, does play into how people end up feeling.
At least I see an interesting play on it all here.

About the Author

Claudia Corrigan DArcy
Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. Blogging since 2005, her website Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding. She is also an activist and avid supporter of Adoptee Rights and fights for nationwide birth certificate access for all adoptees with the Adoptee Rights Coalition. Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine, Adopt-a-tude.com, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.

19 Comments on "What do you think?"

  1. I’ll be happy to help with the blogroll, let me know what I can do.

    I’m SO with you on the “adopt-a” thing. An-mom in our area actually went to bat with the highway admin, and got nowhere. They thought she was a nutcase.

    Yeah, well we’ll crack that nut one of these days.

  2. Forgot to say – the deli will be PERFECT for you guys! Really, if there’s anyone I can imagine turning into a roaring business, it’s you! Good luck!!

  3. Yes it is awful of Pitt and Jolie to take children out a an orphanage in a third world country where they are malnourished and not receivng life saving medical care and bring them to their home, creat a family environment for them, feed them and get the medical help they need.
    I visit thrid world countries and have a daughter adopted from one. I also support an entire family in one or they would starve to death.
    Sometimes you drive by what you think is a dump but is really just a mass grave of infants and toddlers because there is a 40% infant mortality.
    Kudos to the Pitt-Jolie family.

  4. loveadoption | December 6, 2007 at 9:49 pm |

    I disagree with your views, completely. I look at the lives of the children SAVED by adoption, and smile. I look at the families created by adoption, and feel happiness. I look at those left behind because they were abandoned, and feel pain for them. Brad Pitt, AJ and all other adoptive parents are doing an amazing thing ~ they ARE saving lives. Your phobia with the word adoption is fueled by your own issues… To me, it is synonymous with love, joy, compassion and hope. I also find it interesting how money compromises your views of people… BP is a good guy when he is donating his money – but goes by another name when adopting an orphaned child… I wonder what name you would call him if he offered to fund your deli? Your a predictable creature 🙂

  5. Ah, hit and run anonymous scarcasm..got to love it!

    Duh! You really did manage to miss the whole point. For me, It’s not so much that Ms. Jolie has announced that she wants to collect children and have her own UN… though that’s a trite bit odd, but so is making out with your brother.
    It’s not that thay have adopted, again, I do manage to have fabulous conversations with people that are known to be… yipes! adoptive parents! And my head does not spin in it’s axis!
    It’s not even that, personally, jeepers they gots a mess load of kids really close together and threw perfect bio baby on the midst! Heck, they got oodles of dough, they can afford help and therapy and all that jazz.
    It’s not even that I think that they have contributed to adoption being this years “assessory”.
    For me.. the only reason they got the horrible offensive “nasty” that you choose to get all up in a wad about even though that was NOT the whole point of the dern post…
    was just that..
    their adoptions WERE AND ARE nasty:
    Maddox from Cambodia was though a known bad agency..that was closed down due to corruption!
    and Zahara..who was toted about as a “poor african aids orphan” isn’t at all! Her momma would like a visit!
    So really..2 out of three of thier adoptions.. to me.. fall under “nasty” catagory just due to questionable ethics..
    But again, that’s not at all the point.
    It was about word usage.. and the word was not “nasty”.. as in adoption, but an precieved “improvement” with adoption.

    Go back and read the assignment again please.

  6. oh goodness more DUH!
    It’s not a phobia.. or else I really couldn’t talk and write about adoption as much as I do.. I’d be too scared…

    Am I writing about your views aboput adoption? oh,right no..it’s MY blog where I write about MY views..funny how that works. And yeah, duh..yeah, my feelings on adoption ARE fueled indeed by MY life!
    Now see my comment above for the rest of the tirade regard Bradsky.

    Again, reading comprehension..missed the point!

  7. loveadoption | December 6, 2007 at 10:20 pm |

    so, is any difference of opinion viewed by you as “point” missed? yup, your blog – your point of view- your distortion. A few new perspectives may hurt your head – you should continue to only implore those who share your opinion to post – that would be the easy answer – you do like the easy answers in life.
    perhaps AJ and BP should have abandoned the children when faced with difficult agencies and circumstances? How crazy of them to move forward and be true advocates for the children when they could have chosen to abandon them and go with two other children… OH gosh, do you think they may have actually…. cared ! gasp! about the kids – SHOCKING!
    Lastly – you should learn more about international adoption laws – Guatemala in particular – so you do not sound like a moron when addressing the subject that you know so little about.

  8. part of your purpose in blogging i assume is to educate people on your views of adoption and what you have actually learned and/or experienced. As with any scholar there is still much you do not know. Open your mind to some of the comments from those who may know about some areas that you have only a small area of knowledge about. International adoption is one of them. As with domestic adoption some reform is needed but there is a huge political and social infrastructure to most of these countries which will not allow change or reform to occur and even if it does will not build an infrastructure to save these children. It is the reality of a third world country.

  9. Wish you would not use the illustrations of such an amazing book to accommodate your blog! It is an insult to a wonderful illustrator and an incredible author!

  10. lesbysangel | December 7, 2007 at 1:30 am |

    You may want to check into that whole copyright thing!!

  11. Well, I like the heading on the blog.

    As for the deli, it reminds me of the one in Friends, Lovers, and Chocolate by Alexander McCall Smith.

    As for the whole Brad and Angelina thing, I don’t know enough to have an opinion on any of it.

    Good luck with the Deli–it’s an adorable shop.

  12. I’m an adoptive mom. I really enjoy reading your blog, and I’ve learned so much from you and others. Used to think adoption was all those wonderful things until a closer to home experience. Even if I completely disagreed with you, I would be polite and respectful, unlike some of the folks above. Ouch!

  13. groovy new look. 🙂

  14. Does my weird amusment at these “digs” come through? Just wondering, because really saying that using Sendack’s art is an insult, I chuckle! I chuckle outloud! I tell my Rye: “Honey, listen to this one”
    Like I really wonder if some of these folks “just” found me? Did they get terrible offended by one thing they read someplace and then go and get all snarky like.. thinking that ..lol.. it would really effect me?
    I kbnow I can telll they have not done any serious reading here, that’s for sure!
    Anyway… as far as copyright.. i have the full book credit here, Ic am not claiming the work, and if I get told no, then I’ll worry about it. I’m a cross that bridge when you come to it kind of chick.

    For the non snarkies who haven’t commented much before, but have done so now… thank you! I really do like knowing who reads here…:)

  15. Claud – Love your new look. Dislike your recent trolls. You really do seem to attract them.

  16. I love the new look. “Where The Wild Things Are” is one of my favorite children’s books.

    And the deli idea? — perfecto. LURVE that idea!!

    The pic of you on the blog is adorable, BTW. Simply adorable!!

    The only thing I don’t like, Miss Thang, is you having a bum arm for 2 months, but I suppose you hate that more than I do!! 🙁

  17. OMG how cute would that little cafe be…

    and the snarks…let’em be…those who read faitful know you and your thoughts and don’t pull judgment on one post…

  18. Oh I know.. and that’s why it is kind of funny.. especially since how many of the ” good:” aka non snarky posts alone in this thread are from you “evil adoptive mothers”!
    It’s just annoying when someone declares opposition before even bothering to know the whole deal..that would be just as bad as if I declared that EVERY adoptive parents sucked and was a baby stealer..and then spit on you all!
    oh well.. there is, at least. a learning curve!

  19. Evil adoptive mom here. *WAVES*

    heeheehee

    Sorry, my bad.

    Anyways, I also wanted to comment on the Adopt-a programs —

    like nails on a chalkboard to me, I swear, like nails on a chalkboard. ARGH!!!

    What I always think is: what kind of message is this sending our children??? Doesn’t ANYONE think of that?

    Guess not!

    Asshats!

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