The Adoption Pendant: Born from Kay Jeweler’s Adoption Ad Blunder

the first broken heart adoption pendant

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So I am not trying to beat a dead horse or start  up the great debates that centered around the horrible Kay Jewelers ads that had the saccharine adoption theme. However, that instance in AdoptionLand does directly play into the creation of the “The Adoption Pendant”. It’s kind of unavoidable especially if you missed it all.

Here’s the quick rundown of events:

Kay Jeweler’s runs an “adoption ad” in late January/ early February for one of Jane Seymour’s’ fugly “open heart” necklaces.  You can see this nauseating piece of drivel here. I was alerted early on to the ad, but really didn’t feel that inspired to go after it. I guess I am getting numbed to some levels of stupidly or else it is just expected now.  Luckily, others did not lay down the sword.

In response to the adoption mythology shown in the 30 second ad, conversations were spawn on:

All this pretty happened within a span of a week and did provide some decent opportunities to educate other and discuss adoption truths. What I particularly liked about it was that many folks were in all sides of the adoption arena; adoptive parents, adoptees and birth parents all had a say.

Somewhere, I believe it was the Huffington Post article, someone describes a broken heart, smashed up necklace and I say something along the lines of ” Yeah I want one”

smashed heart ncklace comment

And then, one was created! Like magic!

Tracy Hammond, a self described “militant adoptee” sent me this message on Facebook in the midst of the Kay Jeweler’s Fray:

On February 9th,  In response to Kay Jewelers, I have created “The Adoption Pendant”
Set in slightly banged up, tarnished, and scratched Sterling Silver.
A cracked heart, with broken prongs holding a .25 ct Garnet wedged sideways into the pendant- to represent the adoptee never really fitting in to the adopted family/world. The cracked heart represents the pain and loss that adoption brings.

the first broken heart adoption pendant

This unique design can also do double duty as a “Birthmother Pendant” and is very fitting for Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy’s Birthmother Gift Basket! Trademark pending.

Needless to say, I ordered mine within the hour as the first run had three hearts.

Within the first day the response for more was so overwhelming, Tracy decided to make a limited edition collection of 20 more… they sold out, too.  So far, one has been returned because it was “too pretty’ and needed to get banged up more, but most of the recipients have things like this to say.

I was thrilled to receive mine. Now, Tracy was warning that the necklace shouldn’t be slept in as the edges were rough, but I never take off my jewelry and this necklace is no exception. It hasn’t been off my neck since I got it. I have no issues sleeping in it.

adoption heart necklace 2

She has since expanded to two different sizes and added more gemstone colors. I have the original garnet. I have to note that the necklace was all of $25.00 including shipping and the stone is huge!

Considering this is handcrafted, custom made just for us in AdoptionLand and proceeds go to the Adoptee Rights Coalition- I can’t say enough good things about the broken heart Adoption Necklace. It actually does make a great gift  for adoptees and birth mothers as is one of the only pieces of jewelry I have ever seen that accurately represents the reality and truth of adoption.

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About the Author

Claudia Corrigan DArcy
Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. Blogging since 2005, her website Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding. She is also an activist and avid supporter of Adoptee Rights and fights for nationwide birth certificate access for all adoptees with the Adoptee Rights Coalition. Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine,, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.

5 Comments on "The Adoption Pendant: Born from Kay Jeweler’s Adoption Ad Blunder"

  1. SEO SPAMMY COMMENTOR | April 22, 2014 at 6:32 am |

    Above mentioned heart pendants are really beautiful and affordable. I think these are best gift for your acquainted women.

    • “Acquainted women” is that like TAINTED? lol
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  2. Now, Claudia, wouldn’t you much prefer this “delightful” pendant?

    “Adoption, infertility & surrogacy are hot topics these days. By request, I’ve created a piece which honors those selfless women who carry babies for other families. No one can argue that giving to another person or couple, the child that you have carried & birthed, is a heart-wrenching thing to do, but there is joy in the pain. A new family is born or completed, a child is loved & welcomed by so many people who have yearned & ached for this little being.

    She has a bow around her large belly, representing the enormous gift she bears for someone else. We honor the woman who has given so much of herself already & then finds the strength within to give just a little more.

    Available with or without nipples, although I will put them on by default, unless you specify otherwise in “message to seller” upon checkout. Can be created in any color or skin tone. Bow can be any color.”

    (Thankfully no longer available)

  3. Renee Behning | March 30, 2016 at 4:09 pm |

    I am a Birthmother of a 23 yr old son. Our story is different, we have a very open adoption with letters, visits & e-mails. Things were very different from the Birthmothers on the video I just herd & when I had my son in 1993. I was blessed to have my family & Adoptive parents with me during the birth of our son. We keep in touch every year & they are so grateful for me & what I gave them. Our relationship does make coping easier but it is still hard at times, like now because I’m talking about it.
    I would like to be more involved with potential Birthmothers, just not sure how.

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