Making an Adoption Plan

Between the Extremes; Complexity of a Birth Mother

Yes, it is complex being a birth mother. This one act involves a duality of polar opposites. How can I be a victim of an industry, yet I made a choice? How can I be selfless and selfish at the same time? How I can I be a survivor, yet completely broken? How can I do the unthinkable, and then manage to carry on? How could I have been so weak as to lose my child, to not fight for him, and then so strong as to breath into another day?


Aly’s Unethical Fight

“We are so blessed by our two girls, but we are supposed to be coming home with three. …. We felt God tell us to adopt this baby. Even though we have two, we cannot not fight for one we clearly felt was ours. …. Our blessings are many, but that does not mean we will stop fighting for the one…the one we felt God told us was ours when we said yes to adopt again in January.”

Aly, you heard God wrong.


Donna Ames Isn’t As Innocent As She Claims To Be

Why was Donna able to bring Kimberly to court to sign a pre-birth consent but did not complete the process that Donna initiated when she was informed that Kimberly would NOT be going through with an adoption? As an attorney, she led her into a legal process and then removed herself from the situation and left Kimberly with no legal representation to assure that her wishes, to parent her baby, were indeed carried out. At the very least, what Donna did was not ethical by the standards set forth in most Bar Associations.


Let Me Just Clarify; More Details of the Adoption Rocks Donna Ames Adoption Ring

So, tell me again, Donna, how it was clear to Kimberly that you were not representing her best interests as well. In fact, the ethical thing that an attorney would do, you know, one that has ethics, would be to withdraw the pre-birth consent upon being told by a pregnant mother she does not wish to continue with an adoption. Instead Donna withdrew herself from the case to keep her hands from looking dirty, well, in my opinion. I don’t know exactly why Donna didn’t withdraw the pre-birth consent for Kim, who was obviously unaware that it needed to be done. I can only assume it’s because she has no ethics. Other people seem to agree with that opinion.


Wrongful Adoption: Return Baby Elliott, Part II

Kim has been told now that she needed to withdraw her pre-birth consent in writing, something she was never told. She was, in fact, told that final papers would be signed after the birth and that she then had five days to withdraw.

Judge Don Davis, who signed the consent is on the Board of Directors of Adoption Rocks, and Donna Ames, the attorney for Adoption Rocks – who was the only attorney “representing” Kim, is a major donor to Judge Davis’ re-election campaign, making this case and all other adoptions of Adoption Rocks reek of conflict of interest, misrepresentation, fraud, deception, and undue influence.


Wrongful Adoption: Return Baby Elliott, Part I

Kim made one phone call that changed her life dramatically. She thought she was calling an adoption agency by the name of Adoption Rocks – the first to pop up in her Google search. Unbeknownst to her, she was in fact she was calling an attorney named Donna Ames who called her back Sunday evening at 6pm and arranged for them to meet for lunch the very next day


Adoption Rocks Ponzi Scheme and the Donna Ames Empire

Unregulated, unchecked, adoption industry run a muck. That’s what this is. And here we have Kim. Her child ripped away from her. Kate Sharp, of Harbert Realty in Birmingham, Alabama, the woman she still thinks would be a good mom. This woman made all of this come together. Her own selfish desires to be a mother instigated the legal kidnapping of SOMEONE ELSE’S BABY because of a legal loophole (and poor legal representation and legal advice). How could anyone take someone else’s baby if they didn’t want to give it to you. How does Kate sleep with herself at night?


Saving Our Sisters; An Adoption SOS

The simple fact is that we CAN do this. And it is becoming more and more clear that we MUST do this. So if you are at all interested in actually DOING something to really help preserve families, support successful parenting and provide a viable option to a unplanned crisis pregnancy and avoid adoption, PLEASE join this list.



Adoption Book Review: “Birth Mother” by Denise Emanuel Clemen

What I love the most about Denise Emanuel Clemen’s memoir “Birth Mother” is that it is ONLY the pregnancy and immediate adoption experience that she tells. Just as the reader has so many unanswered questions and wonders, the birthmother is left always wondering about her child and the child is left wondering about the mother. It is that complete separation that makes this story so powerful.


What are the Costs of Adoption? Is Adoption Trauma?

Separating mother and child causes varying degrees of lifelong trauma for both. If you are pregnant and considering adoption for your baby, please listen to the mothers of adoption loss and more importantly, the adoptees. Educate yourself of the effect adoption will have on both of you before it’s too late.
Anyone (including agencies) that will gain if your baby is adopted will NOT inform you



Updating on the Current UnEthical Adoption in Ohio

This CAN be over any minute. If the HAP’s returned Camden to Adoption by Gentle Care and aren’t willing to take the bullet; if the DNA results prove that they will fighting both an illegal consent of the mother and a refusal to consent from a father, then it just might be too much for these unethical characters.



When Newborns are Shuffled Around in Legal Shell Games

And I am frustrated, now completely, in the manner that this moves along legally. When a newborns life and well being hangs in the balance, and his lifelong issues of trust and security are being compromised, this becomes a game of legal motions, petitions, actions, courts and stays. I swear there should be some kind of judicial rush that comes into play when a child’s life and well being hangs in balance. Yet, case after case, we watch as the games drag on, financials are drained and the child is the one used like a pawn of adults and agencies with their own agenda. Then the courts have the nerve to rule on a child’s best interest when they themselves had a hand in causing the pain and loss that will accompany almost any outcome.