Ethical Adoption

Aly’s Unethical Fight

“We are so blessed by our two girls, but we are supposed to be coming home with three. …. We felt God tell us to adopt this baby. Even though we have two, we cannot not fight for one we clearly felt was ours. …. Our blessings are many, but that does not mean we will stop fighting for the one…the one we felt God told us was ours when we said yes to adopt again in January.”

Aly, you heard God wrong.


Family Preservation

By Mirah Riben If your neighbor lost his job a year after his wife died, and he had three small kids, would you “help” him by taking away his kids? If a family in your church or congregation’s house burnt down and they had no family to stay with, would you help them by adopting their infant child? Recently, Ronnie Stewart a Florida minister of the Refuge Church of New…


Donna Ames Isn’t As Innocent As She Claims To Be

Why was Donna able to bring Kimberly to court to sign a pre-birth consent but did not complete the process that Donna initiated when she was informed that Kimberly would NOT be going through with an adoption? As an attorney, she led her into a legal process and then removed herself from the situation and left Kimberly with no legal representation to assure that her wishes, to parent her baby, were indeed carried out. At the very least, what Donna did was not ethical by the standards set forth in most Bar Associations.


Let Me Just Clarify; More Details of the Adoption Rocks Donna Ames Adoption Ring

So, tell me again, Donna, how it was clear to Kimberly that you were not representing her best interests as well. In fact, the ethical thing that an attorney would do, you know, one that has ethics, would be to withdraw the pre-birth consent upon being told by a pregnant mother she does not wish to continue with an adoption. Instead Donna withdrew herself from the case to keep her hands from looking dirty, well, in my opinion. I don’t know exactly why Donna didn’t withdraw the pre-birth consent for Kim, who was obviously unaware that it needed to be done. I can only assume it’s because she has no ethics. Other people seem to agree with that opinion.


Wrongful Adoption: Return Baby Elliott, Part II

Kim has been told now that she needed to withdraw her pre-birth consent in writing, something she was never told. She was, in fact, told that final papers would be signed after the birth and that she then had five days to withdraw.

Judge Don Davis, who signed the consent is on the Board of Directors of Adoption Rocks, and Donna Ames, the attorney for Adoption Rocks – who was the only attorney “representing” Kim, is a major donor to Judge Davis’ re-election campaign, making this case and all other adoptions of Adoption Rocks reek of conflict of interest, misrepresentation, fraud, deception, and undue influence.


Wrongful Adoption: Return Baby Elliott, Part I

Kim made one phone call that changed her life dramatically. She thought she was calling an adoption agency by the name of Adoption Rocks – the first to pop up in her Google search. Unbeknownst to her, she was in fact she was calling an attorney named Donna Ames who called her back Sunday evening at 6pm and arranged for them to meet for lunch the very next day


Adoption Rocks Ponzi Scheme and the Donna Ames Empire

Unregulated, unchecked, adoption industry run a muck. That’s what this is. And here we have Kim. Her child ripped away from her. Kate Sharp, of Harbert Realty in Birmingham, Alabama, the woman she still thinks would be a good mom. This woman made all of this come together. Her own selfish desires to be a mother instigated the legal kidnapping of SOMEONE ELSE’S BABY because of a legal loophole (and poor legal representation and legal advice). How could anyone take someone else’s baby if they didn’t want to give it to you. How does Kate sleep with herself at night?


Presenting the Birthmother Perspective at the NYSCCC Conference in May 2015

Help Shape OUR Birthmother Presentation; In my head, I am telling the story, presenting facts and research that supports what I am saying, with actual quotes by YOU ALL showing on the screen. I would very much to have some really good images of moms that can help break apart every possible stereotype and open that door to get them thinking more. Even if it turns out that maybe there are only six stories that get highlighted, at least it’s not just mine. So like I always say, your voices will give my presentation WAY more credibility.


Pretty Much a Birthmother’s Nightmare

I mean thank GOD that I had at least a warning that they were going to be there. Can you image if you didn’t expect your agency and they were in your face! They are just lucky that I HAD mentally prepared or the emotional side of me might have taken hold and I might not have been civil and gracious. In fact, the right thing to do on their part would have been to send me a email or note before hand, explaining that they were going to be there for their CEUs and that IF I was open to it, then they would like to take the opportunity to say hello face to face. At least that would have considered my needs and treated me like a valuable person worth of an opinion and having valid feelings. Instead, I somehow feel again like “just a birthmother” whose feelings come last and just don’t matter. That will not work for me anymore!


Bringing Camden Home Update- at One Year, On His Birthday

The three judges, two women, one man, sit behind what looks to be a cherry and oak huge bench. This bench crosses the whole length of the room, separating us and the lawyers, from the judges, from justice. I really just want to cross that divide and just be able to sit with these folks, who I see as just human beings, and tell them what has been going on in this little boy’s life. I want to plead with them to please do the right thing and make this family whole again. But the “process” means briefs and files and wait times and others who posture and dance, more hurry up to deadlines, and then wait wait wait, more wasted time, lost forever, wasted by this unethical adoption agency, in this baby’s life.


Illinois SB1670 Decreasing the Rights of Natural Parents to Their Children

More Garbage the Pretends to “Save” Babies; There is an amendment comin’ down the pike that will make it even more difficult for a mother who may have relinquished her infant under Illinois’ Abandoned Newborn Infant Protection Act change her mind and get her child back. And will codify that the child will have a foundling birth certificate.



Finally! Accurate Data on Profits in Adoption

So if out of the 14.1 billion is 100% of the revenue, adoption’s 8.2% equals $1,156,200,000.00 in revenue and out of the $380,900,000.00 in profits, adoption’s 8.2% portion results in $31,233,800.00.
Now this “adoption” category does includes both licensed agencies and unlicensed facilitators that arrange adoptions, but does NOT seem to include the attorneys and legal fees.
So REALLY if we want to sound like we know what we are talking about then Adoption services by agencies and facilitators ALONE are supposed to bring in over 30 MILLION dollars in PROFIT in 2015.


So You Have Had a Run in with Those Anti-Adoption People

The simple fact is that these “negative” feelings about adoption DO exist and are VERY REAL. And while I understand that society and the media and the adoption professionals have not prepared you for this, if you are choosing to enter into the world of adoption, you actually don’t get to pick and choose a version of reality that you like best. Again, you can choose not to listen and hear them, but it’s all still here. We are not making this stuff up.


When the Adoption Experts are Wrong

So what I read is a educated therapist adoption professional who SHOULD have access to all the known research of birthmother grief and is seemingly choosing to ignore it instead repeating the propaganda laden ideals of how we WANT adoption to be. The studies clearly state that our grief intensifies over time. There is no peace. A birthmother’s grief is continuous, disenfranchised and complicated. An “article” like this only serves to lead both adoptive parents and any birthmothers up to fail. This supposed two year window sets a stage where people are going to expect that grief will lessen after two years which is a direct contradiction of the research. Now granted there is limited research on birthmother grief, but that gives even more reasoning to expect that Ms. Mantell should be familiar with the facts she speaks of.