Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

HUGE………..

I am really in a state of shock. Adoption.com forums made a huge blunder and deleated the GLBT forums..and people are leaving in droves.. And where are they all going you might ask? Well they are going to Soul of Adoption. How perfect is it that our Heartened had the perfe non profit, ad free non agency owned truthful adoption forum ready to run. Hats off to Heartened!!! This is…


One year ago today…

I got my first message from my Max… “Holy smokes…mom?” Just like that..and it was over. Exile was over. I can’t beleive a whole year has gone by. I have been writing my son and been involved in his life for a year. A year. Wowza.


Accomplished!!

So this morning, as I was reading comments, it hit me “Oh yeah..I have to send that letter today!” So I printed that puppy up, resisited one last doubtful look, signed my name, addressed the envelope, found the stamps and stuck it in the box. Gone it is. Then, feeling acomplished, I cleaned out the junk drawer. That alone was a big deal, but since I had to hunt though…


Noggin=nothing

Dorie the Fish says it well, “Nothing in my noggin.” I can tell you about how I found my hair dye. I can tell you how I got mad at my hair and hacked at it last night. I haven’t decided yet if it is a get some height and texture good thing or a moppy bad thing. I can tell you how I still haven’t delt with the laundry,…


Letter goes out Monday…

With “blessings” from the boy: Hell, go for it. I want them to stop being retarded too. Probably more. I’ve had to live with the idiocy for the last 18 years. Yikes. Worst thing that happens is they continue being stupid. Which wouldn’t surprise me. So I’ll just continue doing the exact opposite of what they say, which wouldn’t surprise them. Then, everyone is happy. Except them. But we dont…


WOOT!!!! and help!!!

MomSeekingPeace, affectionatly referred to as MSP, has joined the fray..and this is definatly something to rejoice!!! Ok..this is very important…see this box? This is my hair color. My beloved been using it for like five years love my red hair color. My can never find it in half the stores but it is always at my supermarket haircolor…until today. I have a bad feeling since Clariol has come out with…


Ummm..stuff and nothing

So it’s Friday..a lovely Spring day..and I have to go to work in two hours. No, make that I have to be at work in two hours. I was SUPPOSE to go in at 5:30, which would have been real nice, but being that it is a beautiful day…I was asked to come in early to cover the patio. Yeah, the first day of patio service. The patio is HELL….


Nice floor…

I followed the Fed Ex truck down the street yesterday, feeling all excited as I knew my red tiles were in it!!! And so, to beat my own procrastination, I did it. It was a bear, but it is done. Today I finished scraping the glue off and gave it the polish coat… The kitchen table and chairs are back. As is the dog food, much to Lilly’s delight. Would…


It’s done.

Finished. caput! Letter to his parents is off the “to do” list. No desire to revise, no want to edit. And is only slightly over 4 pages long…lol. I haven’t heard back from Max on the concept of it, which is normal of him…and I will wait for him to respond first, but I did it. It’s just not in the mail yet. If anyone wants to survey the damage,…


THIS is amazing….

Oh, it’s very long..and a slow read to take it all in. I am not nearly finished, but it is most thoughough… You want facts??? Read here.


Tough night….

So I got over my good dose of procrastination, and sat down to begin to write The letter. I was doing pretty good, three pages in, and then my dear husband broke the attic devide and came over to my side of the office and looked at my draft.. “What are you writing?” “A leter to Max’s parents” “Why” “because they are upset and I want to try to make…


Fact or Fiction?

Civil war rages as a fundamentalist Christian regime revokes all women’s rights and presses the few who remain fertile into sexual slavery as breeders, called handmaids, for infertile couples.


More on Max…again

So I had sent him a message regarding Scarlett and Tristan’s reaction to his existence…and his butt. And got a reply: Well, I usually don’t say crap like this, but that is absolutely adorable. Now I definitely gotta show up. Maybe during April vacation. Nuthin going on for the most part, just gotta make sure the folks aren’t gonna freak. They’re crazy. Absolutely insane. And of course now..I worry. Does…


It will be worth it..in the end

So sorry, that I have not been able to be brilliant of insightful, reactionary, or funny this week..alas, I have been in home improvement hell. After two weeks of never ending futzing on the Jeep from hell, Rye is satisfied and we started our waiting project..the kitchen floor. Now my “old” kitchen floor was painted wood. Havinghardwood floors in the kitchen are a plus to some, but I am a…


Check this out.

So in the midst of my random wanderings last night, I found this. It’s very scientific and a bit of a hard read, but most interesting on bonding and the mother child connection. And this is 25 year old information. Good quotes: It appears that shortly after birth the baby, as well as the mother, are in a state of readiness that allows them to interact with each other…One can…