Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

Catelynn & Tyler of MTV’s Teen Mom – A Lesson in Reality

By AstridBeeMom “Bethany was really supportive of me. They helped me answer any questions or any worries that I have, they taught me about grief and how to go through that; just kind of show me that I’m the person who makes my adoption plan. I’m the person that makes it look how I want it to look. They’ve just always been there. I could call them at four o’clock…


I’m Giving Away 5 Closet Organizers

By Lori Holden And Now for Something Completely DifferentAwhile back, I got to try an invention that made my life better — or, at least my closet better. The inventor is now offering to give away a Boot Butler to up to 5 readers of this blog. Amazon is running the giveaway, so entry is easy and your … Continue reading I’m Giving Away 5 Closet Organizers → The post…


Victoria: A Call To Action for the SOS Network

By AstridBeeMom I’d like to tell you a story. A story about resilience, courage, love, redemption and faith. A story a little bit shocking, a lot sad, a little sensational, but filled with a lot of hope. Let me introduce you to Victoria. From the tender age of eight years old, Victoria has been a victim of human trafficking. Taken from her home country in Europe, she spent the next…


Regarding Anti-Adoptionists & Teenagers

By Lori Holden Who is Anti-Adoption and What Can We Learn from Them?If you’ve ever been in a cross-triad adoption group, you’ve probably encountered someone who seems vehemently, angrily, staunchly anti-adoption. Some say there is NO circumstance in which adoption is called for. It’s just that devastating, that inhumane, that unnecessary.When coming across such a tirade, you probably … Continue reading Regarding Anti-Adoptionists & Teenagers → The post Regarding Anti-Adoptionists…


The Good Adoptee

By Lori Holden Suzanne Bachner’s award-winning show, The Good Adoptee, starring Anna Bridgforth, will tour Connecticut this fall to help garner support for restoring Connecticut adoptees’ access to their original birth certificates.The tour runs October 22 to December 9, coinciding with National Adoption Awareness Month, and will benefit Access Connecticut‘s adoptee rights efforts. Each performance will include a post-show … Continue reading The Good Adoptee → The post The Good…


Going Rogue. Or is that Rouge?

By Lori Holden I needed a night out. There had been stressors at home, stressors in the classroom, stressors elsewhere. Nothing major; just relentless. A few hours away from it all would be just the ticket.My Vino Support Group (VSG) showed up for a girls night out at one of those painting and wining places. Joining us at … Continue reading Going Rogue. Or is that Rouge? → The post…


“You Don’t Look Adopted”

By Lori Holden Anne Heffron is a highly gifted writer. In fact, she’s spent decades teaching writing to others, amid her own struggles around identity, brokenness, self-destructive habits, and conflicting emotions about her own mother (it’s mere coincidence that my last post was on the Happy/Sad of adoption). Her memoir and first book, You Don’t Look Adopted, was … Continue reading “You Don’t Look Adopted” → The post “You Don’t…


The Happy/Sad of Adoption

By Lori Holden Last week I witnessed a private interaction that needs to be seen by a wider audience, for it addresses the fallacy that if adoptees are happy and connected to their (adoptive) parents, it follows that they will not have any adoption issues. Can there be a “Happy/Sad” of adoption?At the request of the question asker … Continue reading The Happy/Sad of Adoption → The post The Happy/Sad…


Bad Dream

By Lori Holden I woke up the other morning in the middle of a bad dream. I’d been dreaming that someone had not only pulled my dog’s tail, but had pulled it OFF.In my pre-dawn dream world, my poor Dexter, proud wagger of a lush and expressive plume, would forever have to live with this amputation. And so … Continue reading Bad Dream → The post Bad Dream appeared first…


I Went to Orlando for Adoption, Not Disney

By Lori Holden Last week I set out from Denver to head to Orlando for a conference about adoption laws and practices.I got to stay in in a Doubletree Hotel Resort for a couple of days. The grounds were beautiful.I was there to attend and speak at the Florida Adoption Council’s annual conference.Shortly after arriving, I met Ashley … Continue reading I Went to Orlando for Adoption, Not Disney →…


Letter to Indiana Legislators in Support of SB91

By Laura Marie Scoggins I am writing to encourage your support of Senate Bill 91 which will allow ALL Hoosier Adoptees equal access to their original birth certificates. Pre 1994 adoptees deserve the same access as post 1994 adoptees. One of the most common questions adoptees are asked when they tell people they are searching for their biological family or have been reunited is “why would you even want to…


Inquiring Minds Want to Know

By Lori Holden Last week I planted two earworms, both with notoriously long endings. I challenged you to estimate which song had more Na Nas, and by a little or a lot.Our ContestantsThe FactorsIn one corner, the Hey Jude outro times in at 3:50, a definite advantage . However, as Jess pointed out, much of that time is … Continue reading Inquiring Minds Want to Know → The post Inquiring…


What if I’m Raising Someone Else’s Children?

By Lori Holden A comment left on a recent post caused me to revisit an article published originally on The Huffington Post, now reprinted here.Feeling Like an ImposterOn a spring day many years ago, Crystal was about to leave the hospital after giving birth the day before. We’d recently met through an adoption agency, and we’d suddenly bonded … Continue reading What if I’m Raising Someone Else’s Children? → The…


Question for You Classic Rock Trivia Geeks

By Lori Holden Do you love classic rock? A disproportionate number of my car radio presets are for classic rock stations. I love listening to and introducing my children to classic rock. With the influences of their dad and me, our kids are sure to turn out well-rounded, musically speaking.I heard two songs the other day, both with … Continue reading Question for You Classic Rock Trivia Geeks → The…


How I Opened to Open Adoption: a #LivingFearless Post

By Lori Holden I’ve been invited to participate in the #LivingFearless campaign, sponsored by Protection1. What have you done that required a #LivingFearless spirit? Mine lies in the way I became a mom…Everything I Knew Was WrongMany years ago after we’d run the gauntlet of infertility diagnoses and treatments, we set out on a new and daunting journey, … Continue reading How I Opened to Open Adoption: a #LivingFearless Post…