Musings of the Lame; An Adoption Blog

I Got Jackassed. TWICE.

By Lori Holden The parking lot was not full when I drove up. I slid into one of many available spots, grabbed my mat and headed in to a yoga class. I got some exercise, met my physical and mental edge, practiced staying present, and closed with a moment of stillness.That last step was important.Because when I came … Continue reading I Got Jackassed. TWICE. → The post I Got…


#flipthescript 10: I Guessed My Birth Mother’s First Name

By Lori Holden Lenore Paletta found out she was born Giuseppina Morellato in Italy. With aching candor, she shares a portion of her search for her identity.The #flipthescript series gives adoptees the microphone during November, National Adoption Awareness Month.Image: Tracy HammondWhen I Think of SearchingI guessed my birth mother’s first name. Yes, I really did. I was sitting … Continue reading #flipthescript 10: I Guessed My Birth Mother’s First Name…


#flipthescript 9: The Healing Power of Open Adoption

By Lori Holden Paula Fahey was born, relinquished, and adopted during the closed adoption era. She experienced the happy/sad of adoption — she loved her parents yet she wondered about her birth parents. She’s now also on the birth family side of an open adoption and weighs in on the element of openness.The #flipthescript series gives adoptees the … Continue reading #flipthescript 9: The Healing Power of Open Adoption →…


Stillness in Contentiousness

By Lori Holden I’m craving stillness as we in the United States near the end of this particularly contentious election season. Stillness takes us from the frenetic edge of the spinning sphere to the still center, to our core.Stillness is how we bring unity from duality. And I don’t know about you, but boy, have I been feeling duality, … Continue reading Stillness in Contentiousness → The post Stillness in…


#flipthescript 8: Adoptees Are In Reunion Whether They’re Searching or Not

By Lori Holden Lesli Johnson, author of the helpful and repeatedly viral post, 10 Things Adoptess WantYou to Know, is flipping the script today. Adopted people are taking over the microphone in this space during November for National Adoption Awareness Month.Image: Tracy HammondWhat Adoptees DoDuring a recent presentation at an adoption conference, I had attendees participate in a … Continue reading #flipthescript 8: Adoptees Are In Reunion Whether They’re Searching…


#flipthescript 7: Hold On

By Lori Holden Anne Heffron, author of the newly-released must-read memoir You Don’t Look Adopted, kicks of this year’s #flipthescript series, in which adoptees take over the microphone.Image: Tracy HammondSo Why Was I Crying?I am going to visit some of my birth father’s family for the first time next week and my family is letting me go. No … Continue reading #flipthescript 7: Hold On → The post #flipthescript 7:…



Parenting in Adoption

By Lori Holden Parenting By Adoption (Any Type!)I have an article featured in the current issues of Adoptive Families magazine titled Parenting With an Open Heart. (It’s currently accessible for free with or without subscription.)When I speak with adoptive parents through workshops and webinars, especially those who came to adoption through the international or foster routes, I sense … Continue reading Parenting in Adoption → The post Parenting in Adoption…


Catelynn & Tyler of MTV’s Teen Mom – A Lesson in Reality

By AstridBeeMom “Bethany was really supportive of me. They helped me answer any questions or any worries that I have, they taught me about grief and how to go through that; just kind of show me that I’m the person who makes my adoption plan. I’m the person that makes it look how I want it to look. They’ve just always been there. I could call them at four o’clock…


I’m Giving Away 5 Closet Organizers

By Lori Holden And Now for Something Completely DifferentAwhile back, I got to try an invention that made my life better — or, at least my closet better. The inventor is now offering to give away a Boot Butler to up to 5 readers of this blog. Amazon is running the giveaway, so entry is easy and your … Continue reading I’m Giving Away 5 Closet Organizers → The post…


Victoria: A Call To Action for the SOS Network

By AstridBeeMom I’d like to tell you a story. A story about resilience, courage, love, redemption and faith. A story a little bit shocking, a lot sad, a little sensational, but filled with a lot of hope. Let me introduce you to Victoria. From the tender age of eight years old, Victoria has been a victim of human trafficking. Taken from her home country in Europe, she spent the next…


Regarding Anti-Adoptionists & Teenagers

By Lori Holden Who is Anti-Adoption and What Can We Learn from Them?If you’ve ever been in a cross-triad adoption group, you’ve probably encountered someone who seems vehemently, angrily, staunchly anti-adoption. Some say there is NO circumstance in which adoption is called for. It’s just that devastating, that inhumane, that unnecessary.When coming across such a tirade, you probably … Continue reading Regarding Anti-Adoptionists & Teenagers → The post Regarding Anti-Adoptionists…


The Good Adoptee

By Lori Holden Suzanne Bachner’s award-winning show, The Good Adoptee, starring Anna Bridgforth, will tour Connecticut this fall to help garner support for restoring Connecticut adoptees’ access to their original birth certificates.The tour runs October 22 to December 9, coinciding with National Adoption Awareness Month, and will benefit Access Connecticut‘s adoptee rights efforts. Each performance will include a post-show … Continue reading The Good Adoptee → The post The Good…


Going Rogue. Or is that Rouge?

By Lori Holden I needed a night out. There had been stressors at home, stressors in the classroom, stressors elsewhere. Nothing major; just relentless. A few hours away from it all would be just the ticket.My Vino Support Group (VSG) showed up for a girls night out at one of those painting and wining places. Joining us at … Continue reading Going Rogue. Or is that Rouge? → The post…


“You Don’t Look Adopted”

By Lori Holden Anne Heffron is a highly gifted writer. In fact, she’s spent decades teaching writing to others, amid her own struggles around identity, brokenness, self-destructive habits, and conflicting emotions about her own mother (it’s mere coincidence that my last post was on the Happy/Sad of adoption). Her memoir and first book, You Don’t Look Adopted, was … Continue reading “You Don’t Look Adopted” → The post “You Don’t…