It’s a Birthmother Halloween

Halloween 2012 D'Arcy style

How Many Birthmothers Can be at One Party?

So we had our huge annual Halloween party this past Saturday night right before Hurricane Sandy came and destroyed Halloween.

As much as I adore Halloween, and I do , I think I was most excited this year when I realized how many other moms were invited!

Six! Six Birthmothers!!

Granted only four made it, but still; FOUR birthmothers at ONE party!

While I do get to see more moms in one sitting, I usually have to wait for a conference or the Adoptee Rights Demonstration for such numbers. This was our party, at my house! We didn’t have signs around our necks or take a group picture or anything, but I was ridiculously excited. We were not out numbered. We didn’t even every really talk about adoption. We were normal.

And the funny thing; only we knew.

Can’t judge a birthmother by her costume!

And I’ll prove it. Here’s the pictures.

FIVE! Five Birthmothers Muhahahah!

And then, the joke is on me. There were five of us there. I just found out another guest was also screwed out of her kids.

See, I can’t even tell.

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About the Author

Claudia Corrigan DArcy
Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. Blogging since 2005, her website Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding. She is also an activist and avid supporter of Adoptee Rights and fights for nationwide birth certificate access for all adoptees with the Adoptee Rights Coalition. Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine,, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.

1 Comment on "It’s a Birthmother Halloween"

  1. Since Second-Chance Mother came out, I’ve been amazed at the number of women who have approached me at various events (and via email) to share their stories of losing their children to adoption. And men, too! Birthfathers with great regret. We’re everywhere, I’m sad to say…

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