• A Must Read List for Adoption Truths

    • In many states across the USA including New York, Adoptee Rights bills are introduced to state legislators year after year. Due to lack of public support and misinformation based outdated beliefs about the adoption process, year after year, this bills fail to become laws.

    • I am a product of this experiment. I was born on December 24th, 1988 and I was soon transferred from one mother to another because my first mother, known throughout my life as my birth mother, wasn’t married to my birth father. She was 16 years old and still in high school.

    • I was 14 when I learned I was pregnant and my life changed forever. Once I’d gotten that fateful news, I tried to imagine what it would be like to have a baby; I wondered if I’d be able to finish school, would I be able to give my baby the life she deserved?

    • So How Do We Fix Adoption in the USA? Domestic Voluntary Infant Adoption is what we are discussing here. Women facing and unplanned pregnancy and “choose” adoption rather than parenting. If you aren’t aware of adoption facts, then you might not be aware of the need for reform.

    • There are some facts about adoption that, really, you cannot dispute unless you are just trying to purposely to stay ignorant regarding the facts of infant adoption in this country. Adoption is, in its perfect form, suppose to be about finding homes for children that need them, not about finding children for parents that want them.

    • What Happens to the Numbers of Adoptable Infants in the USA if We Compare to Australia? IF the USA had similar adoption practices to Australia and supported mothers, in the US we would have only 539 Voluntary Domestic Infant relinquishments annually give or take.

    • The relinquishment and subsequent adoption of my son was actually picture perfect. I am a perfect example of exactly what adoption is when it works just as it is suppose to.The adoption of my son was perfect, I did everything the “right” way and still; the adoption of my son caused unnecessary pain and was wrong. This is way I speak out against adoption today.

    • Adoption was almost more like a crack that happened in my soul. A crack that that I thought and was encouraged to believe that would be temporary or always below the surface. Over time, the rest of life worked it’s way in, like water in cement and caused the very foundation of myself to crumble.

    • When I relinquished Max, it was suppose to be something that affected ME. Like so many things in adoption, the professionals were wrong. The “gift of adoption” just keep on giving and giving.. the pain has a huge ripple effect that touches every aspect of a woman’s lives including ALL our children.

    • Secondary adoptee rejection is a very real reality in adoption reunions. We all have a different skill set and experiences to handle a reunion.There are many mothers who were simply told to “never speak of this again” and that has proven to be a real unhealthy bit of advice.

    • The simple fact is that it is less than 1% of all relinquishing mothers desire to never set eyes on their children again. So because these 1% mothers another 6 to 8 million people and their children and their children’s children get denied medical histories, get denied their identity, get denied their truth..

    • Most adoption agencies will offer free “birthmother” counseling as part of their adoption services. A true counselor is supposed to advocate for their client, not the organization for which they work. Often adoption counseling is “in agency” and therefore, not really nonpartisan. There is no guarantee that the “counselor” is neutral and actually has the expectant mothers’ best interests at heart.

    • I figured that I would write a post that makes it easier for women to become birthmothers. Hence, here’s a handy guide on how to become more appealing to adoption agencies and ways to ensure that you will place your baby.

Day 19 of Adoption Activism; NAAM2013 – Fight for New York’s Adoptee Rights Bill!

Demonstration in New York City on Nov 23rd

Adoptee rights rally in NYCUnsealed Initiative has organized another Adoptee Rights Protest at Governor Cuomo’s New York City Office for Friday November 22rd, 2013. 

Meet at 633 Third Avenue, New York, New York 10016 at 11:30 AM

RSVP to the Event here on Facebook

Bring signs and friends! After the protest there will be a march and we will rally around the new film “Philomena” at a nearby cinema showing the film.

Tell Helene Weinstein She is Wrong

Helen Weinstein has repeatedly prevented New York State’s  Bill of Adoptee Rights from moving forward for a vote on the assembly floor. SHE is the obstacle.

Once again Brooklyn Assemblymember Helene Weinstein, Chair of Judiciary Committee, has stepped in to hold A909 from advancing to the assembly floor for a vote. She has stymied our legislation and continues to say the birth parents were promised confidentiality which we know is not the case. Every non-adopted person can easily obtain their original birth certificate. Adult adoptees should have that same right. Having one class of people treated differently than another based on the circumstances of their birth is the definition of discrimination. This is a violation of adopted citizen’s civil rights!

New York, being New York, is also VERY IMPORTANT to the rest of the countries fight to restore OBC access to adopted people. If NY was to restore adoptees civil rights, other states could turn quicker. New York, it has been said, “sets the tone”.

Do You Want Your Birth Certificate from New York State?

Then make it so! Make this important. Do NOT make excuses! Please join us and let our voices be heard! We can no longer just sit back and say “pass this!” We have WORK to do!

If you cannot be there in person, please write her, call her, email her. As her “concern” is the adoption mythology of “birthmother privacy” , if you have a particular point to make on that side of the issue, it would be best.

Email Helen Weinstein about the need to support adoptee rights at: WeinstH@assembly.state.ny.us

Helen Weinstein’ s District Office

  • 3520 Nostrand Avenue
  • Brooklyn, NY 11229
  • 718-648-4700

Helen Weinstein’ s Albany Office

  • LOB 831
  • Albany, NY 12248
  • 518-455-5462

Below is Assemblywoman Helene E. Weinstein’s contact/address information page where you can also fill out her contact form and email her that way.
http://assembly.state.ny.us/mem/Helene-E-Weinstein/contact/

Need to now more about the Battle to Free Adoption Records in New York?

The history of sealed adoption records in the US and the current battle in New York’s legislation to free them in parts I, II and II.

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Claudia Corrigan DArcy

About Claudia Corrigan DArcy

Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy has been online and involved in the adoption community since early in 2001. Blogging since 2005, her website Musings of the Lame has become a much needed road map for many mothers who relinquished, adoptees who long to be heard, and adoptive parents who seek understanding. She is also an activist and avid supporter of Adoptee Rights and fights for nationwide birth certificate access for all adoptees with the Adoptee Rights Coalition. Besides here on Musings of the Lame, her writings on adoption issue have been published in The New York Times, BlogHer, Divine Caroline, Adoption Today Magazine, Adoption Constellation Magazine, Adopt-a-tude.com, Lost Mothers, Grown in my Heart, Adoption Voice Magazine, and many others. She has been interviewed by Dan Rather, Montel Williams and appeared on Huffington Post regarding adoption as well as presented at various adoption conferences, other radio and print interviews over the years. She resides in New York’s Hudson Valley with her husband, Rye, children, and various pets.
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4 Responses to Day 19 of Adoption Activism; NAAM2013 – Fight for New York’s Adoptee Rights Bill!

  1. Jendi says:

    Thanks for following this issue! Here is what I wrote in Weinstein’s contact form:

    Dear Assemblywoman Weinstein,

    I am an adoptive mother whose son was born in NY State. I’m writing to encourage you to support the Adoptee Rights Bill. The latest psychological research on adoption, as well as the many personal testimonies of now-grown adoptees and birthparents, overwhelmingly shows that adopted children fare better when they have access to their personal history.

    We are fortunate to have a good open adoption relationship with our son’s birthparents, who gave us a copy of his original birth certificate. They were just as upset as we were that the State of NY would not give this to him!

    Openness and truthfulness are important values in our family. We feel uncomfortable that our son’s new birth certificate pretends that we are his natural parents. At least we have the original one so he can have the complete story. Many other kids in his position are not so fortunate.

    If you are still undecided on the merits of this issue, I encourage you to study the research findings of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute: http://www.adoptioninstitute.org/index.php

    Thank you for your consideration of this important matter.

    Regards,
    Jendi Reiter

  2. Robin says:

    Does anyone know if Assemblywoman Weinstein may have a large number of Jewish supporters who may be influencing her position on this issue? A child is only considered Jewish if s/he is born to a Jewish mother. Some Jewish APs may not want to have information (i.e the OBC) that proves their child would not be considered Jewish according to Jewish law. Adoptees who are raised in the Jewish faith, but who are known to not be ‘Jewish born’, can have problems making aliyah (immigrating to Israel) and with other issues.

  3. Recently we have become part of a state wide coalition of adoption agencies and child welfare organizations throughout the state to fight for passage of a fair and nondiscriminatory bill giving all adult adoptees rights. We are now a part of NYS Open Records Legislative Collaboration. The Child Welfare League of America is in support of Open Records for all Adoptees in the U.S. at age 18. Catholic Charities in Albany, The American Adoption Congress, Spence Chapin Adoption Agency in New York City, Holt International Children Services (a leading adoption agency), The Adoptees Liberty Movement Association, Adoption Crossroads, Manhattan Birthparents Support Group, North American Council on Adoptable Children, New York Foundling Hospital, Manhattan, Hillside Adoption Services, Rochester, Friends of Adoption, Queens, New York State Citizens Coalition for Children, Council for Families and Child Caring Agencies, Adoption Under One Roof, Episcopal Diocese of Albany and Center for Family Connections, Concerned United Birth Parents, OriginsUSA, Ethica, OpenAdoption.org, and Adoption Action Network all strongly support our bills. The Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, the foremost think tank on adoption issues in our country has researched this issue with two important studies finding for adoptee access to birth certificates.

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